What signs indicate that your marriage will not last long?

When the professional golfer Lee Trevino was married for the first time, the divorce became absolutely unexpected for him. And this is after 18 years of marriage. Here's how the couples break the constant absence of one of the spouses. Now Mr. Trevino is 77 years old, and he remembers his unsuccessful experience with a fair amount of humor. With his second wife, Claudia Bova, he lives happily for 23 years. Many divorced people talk about their experience from a philosophical point of view. But for those who still can not heal past psychological wounds, this topic remains taboo.

The same goes for lawyers on family law. Many of them are very reserved about their work. They do not feel that they are helping their clients in a positive way. And indeed, the divorce process is a drama, accompanied by scandals, mutual accusations and bickering. Therefore, lawyers on family law, in addition to legal skills, must have the skills of a psychologist. Why do half of all marriages end in divorce? By the will of fate, the reasons that have affected the separation are known to many lawyers. The people say so: warned - so armed. Want to know what signs indicate a split in the relationship?

Silence (restrained communication)

Obviously, a strong marriage is built on productive communication. Spouses are very important to talk with each other, including to solve the problems that have arisen. Therefore, silence is not always gold. When communication goes into recession, or in the increasingly frequent confrontations in the form of a cold war, this marriage has cracked. The more precise the silence is, the faster the resentment will grow in the souls of the partners.

Total control

An attempt to control one's partner regardless of the situation is also an alarm bell for the relationship. It is known that a spouse, gravitating toward total control, is incorrigible. He will never give up the habit of monitoring the situation and managing it. Therefore, it is obvious that for another partner marriage is a real psychological test. In this case, the moves are any tricks: denial of access to money, viewing the phone book and even cooperation with private detectives. And only the angelic patience of the "victim" can keep the marriage afloat for some time.

Addictive Behavior

Now it will be a question of one of the forms of destructive behavior in which a person seeks to escape from reality by changing the mental state. It can be a predilection for alcohol, drugs, gambling or any other manifestation of compulsive behavior.

Alcoholism and drug addiction are amenable to treatment, albeit hard. Nevertheless, many people do not recognize themselves as sick and continue to destroy themselves and their relationships from within.

Financial inconsistency

Ideally, any financial issues and obligations are discussed by partners even before marriage. However, in real life, newlyweds are blinded by love and think about the long-term well-being of the family through the prism of a foggy future. At some point, the veil falls from the eyes, and gray everyday life comes with domestic and financial problems. One partner (and this is not necessarily a woman) can be a terrible waste. Some people have credit obligations to banks, but their spouses are not aware of this. When the fraud is revealed, confidence is completely undermined, which causes a divorce.

Lack of common interests

We all know that opposites are attracted, but we do not know that this is usually not for long. Nature has allowed people to fall in love in order to reproduce healthy offspring. However, no psychologist will guarantee that absolutely different people can be interesting to each other for many years. If the partners do not have common interests, their marriage will be difficult to stay afloat, even if there are common children, real estate and financial obligations. When the spouses have different temperaments, different types of personality, they look at the world completely different eyes. Too great a gap in the sphere of interests forms a huge dissonance. In this case, partners spend more time away from each other than together.

Feeling of remoteness

Sometimes spouses tend to experience polarization emotions. At some period they are perfectly happy, and in some they may become depressed. If such a picture does not repeat often, then this is beneficial to the relationship. After a while, the partners realize that they can not live without each other, and everything will get better again. But if the feeling of aloofness does not pass, it is an alarm bell, and over time the negative feeling will only increase. Note that many of the reasons that we mentioned earlier can provoke alienation.

When work comes first

"The family always comes first" is the axiom of happy couples. But when one of the spouses suddenly becomes a workaholic, this should alert the second partner.

As we already know, fruitful communication is of vital importance for any married couple. But if people rarely see each other and talk little, in this case, the chances of a divorce increase dramatically.