Unequal marriage

In 2007, the newspaper informed its readers about one very interesting event. 24-year-old Argentinian Reinaldo Vavekche married 82-year-old Adelf Wolves.

Simple calculations show that the difference in age between the bride and groom is 58 years. What does not prevent them from being happy together.

What are the advantages and disadvantages of a great difference between spouses in life experience? Does the wisdom of the eldest of them help to arrange a more harmonious family life than in the case of a marriage between one-year-olds? How acute is the problem of jealousy in such marriages? Are people in an unequal marriage more inclined to trust each other? Does the junior spouse act like a dope? How to find a common language for people who actually belong to different generations? Do not create problems for the young partner of his peers - the children of the spouse from the previous marriage? On the other hand, how can a senior spouse communicate with a father-in-law and a mother-in-law?

All these questions arise before the spouses in every "unequal marriage". And in each case they are solved differently.

One of the vivid examples of that unequal marriage can be happy is the union of Charlie Chaplin and Una O'Neil, a talented actress, the daughter of playwright Eugene O'Neill. Immediately after their wedding, Una told her husband that she did not need any stage career, no cinema, no social life-nothing but his love. He was 54 years old, she was 17. They lived together 34 happy years, produced five sons and three daughters.

Maybe the whole point is that emotional empathy is very important for a woman. From time to time, as psychologists say, a woman needs to feel slightly upset. And her man should be sensitive to her condition to catch. Here is such a complex algorithm of female happiness. Of course, it is easier for the older and more experienced man to see the mood swings of his wife - he has more experience, more opportunities to comfort his wife, to show her that she is under reliable protection and care.

It is for this reason that the unequal age of marriage most often consists of spouses, where the older man is.

Before the revolution in our country, this was an ordinary phenomenon - an unequal marriage. A man is older, a woman is younger, no problems.

In Stalin's Russia, they were practically forgotten about them - property and social were all equal, and the difference in age could no longer be compensated by money or titles. Exceptions were encountered in the context of the Soviet establishment. First of all, Iosif Vissarionovich, whose wife was younger than him for 24 years, lived in an unequal age of marriage. At forty he married the 16-year-old Nadezhda Alliluyeva.

It is interesting that his daughter Svetlana first started at 16, too. And her chosen one, scriptwriter and director Alexei Kapler, also was at that moment 40.

True, this novel was at least turbulent, but short. Stalin quickly sent his beloved daughter to cool the love of passion in cold Siberia.

It was people close to the Kremlin who supported, so to speak, the "unequal marriage" institution. And most often such families were extremely successful. For example, the third marriage of the legendary Semyon Budenny with the niece of his second wife was, according to witnesses, a model of tenderness, love and family happiness.

The champion in this sense was Sergei Vladimirovich Mikhalkov - the difference with his wife was 47 years. Family children are not interrupted and the children of Sergei Vladimirovich - his son Andrei Konchalovsky difference with his wife Julia Vysotskaya in 36 years.

A wonderful example of a successful uneven-aged marriage is given by Svetlana Bezrodnaya, a famous violinist, organizer of Vivaldi Orchestra. What is characteristic, she grew up also to the Kremlin, and she married for the first time at the age of 16 for her teacher, the laureate of the Stalin Prize, Igor Semyonovich Bezrodny. And all 18 years of marriage with him Svetlana Borisovna was the happiest woman.

There is such a belief that in families where the husband is a mature person, more talented children are born . Actually, there is nothing surprising in this. Adult fathers are able to more attentively treat their children, provide them with better conditions for development, in time to give good advice.

For all pros and cons, unequal marriages are always more meaningful than those of peers. Marriage with a big difference in ages is a privilege of people held and internally free. And the statistics report that such unions are more prosperous.

Motivation for entering into an unequal marriage is as different as the different people who make it. Maybe this is the secret of the success of unequal marriages.

After all, family happiness - when each of the spouses gets married what he expected from him.