The world of progress, crazy speeds, the frenzied rhythm of life clearly favorably refers to really strong-willed, determined, bright people. An emancipated woman is one that is completely in tune with the present, so complex and constantly changing. She is able to curb this age, so loving responsibility, courageous actions, independent conclusions, create a happy self and others. This is real freedom. Any person needs to be able to build his own destiny himself and not depend on someone's actions, opinions, moods. For everyone, it's time to regain the responsibility for your own well-being, to gain personal freedom, to make your life truly successful.
Meaning of the word
It is necessary to first disclose the term "emancipation". What did this mean before? Word literally can be translated as "getting rid of someone's guardianship, recognition of legal capacity, the provision of the ability to defend their interests."
Now this term evokes a very persistent association with feminism - the movement for women's rights. It acquired a somewhat political coloring and began to denote "liberation", gaining truly equal opportunities with a man, when the women began to fight for their equality.
A little bit about the sad
In past centuries, a woman was simply a service appendix to a man. She could not manage the finances herself, even if they had one. Open, for example, a bank account could be exclusively in the name of a brother, father, husband. Partners for marriage to the girl were chosen by relatives. Often, the future spouses met only a short time before the wedding, there was no need to dream about any love. There was no real education for women, as well as normal jobs. All activity was reduced to the management of the economy, needlework, the education of children, and behavior was very much restricted to strict morals.
A modern woman can hardly imagine this. Impossibility to take place as a person, endless childbirth, exhausting monotonous work, dependence on men, wearing an inconvenient, disfiguring inner garment - an incomplete list of horrors that had to survive chained ladies to the home.
The most ambitious project in the history of cultural modernization is emancipation. What has changed in the present? Forced marriages were found to be illegal, and women were granted many rights. Unfortunately, the women are still considered to be "weak sex" and "keeper of the hearth", their appearance is exaggerated, and even fantastic requirements, merit at work are not noticed, access to some specialties is closed. Inter-gender relations are imperfect, there are still remnants of the past "dark" time to eliminate them, it is necessary to change society as a whole.
The present provides great opportunities. A strong independent woman, even in modern cruel conditions, is able to fully reveal her talents and create a happy life. The acquisition of freedom is a wonderful gift for feminists, who have been able to largely change the unfair position of women and have achieved the removal of a huge number of fetters.
Where did the changes begin?
1791 is famous for the publication of the Declaration of the Rights of Women, the main principles of which were equality, resistance to oppression, freedom to express one's opinions and thoughts, recognition of a woman to be an independent person who has the right to actively participate in society, to openly state her problems and demand their solution.
Olympia de Guzh, the author, predetermined the direction of the further struggle, which was carried out by the forces of the first activists of the movement, incredibly brave representatives of the people. They managed to draw attention to themselves and force others to discuss the questions posed and act. The movement gradually spread in the West, and then throughout the world.
Features of emancipation in Russia
Such events undoubtedly received a response in Russia, which adopted the ideas of individual freedom and equality, but the ideas of feminism were alien to its traditional culture based on male domination in the family and a strict gender hierarchy in society. Family relations were placed above the interests of an individual person, which was only a minor part of a ramified huge clan. Emancipated woman - this is a daring challenge to the patriarchal system, which does not provide for self-realization and development of its individual components.
After the revolution, the rights of citizens of both sexes were legislatively balanced, formally all became full participants in society, but the life of women has not improved this much. Now workers and peasant women after the hard day waited for the "second shift" - all the care for children and the house was the duty of the wife. In the post-Soviet period, the situation worsened, now the working mother also lost the support of the state.
Echo of the distant tragedies
The image of a modern woman is a heroine who herself chooses her destiny, but the history of Russia of the last century has its influence on the mass consciousness. Sudden gaining freedom, hunger, labor feats, death around, caring in such conditions about children. It was really hard. Lonely women began to dream of some kind of support, protection, so that they were saved from these horrors. The shortage of men after the war made it tenacious to hold on to any representative of the stronger sex, fulfilling all his whims, so that he did not suddenly leave.
The return to a certain cult of the myth of "true femininity" observed today comes from there. Tragic events long ago were left behind, but the habit was preserved, passed on to granddaughters and daughters. This is what the supporters of "women's destiny" are trying to do, forcing them to choose instead of self-development only the upbringing of children, husband's service, and household.
New time opportunities
The era of great opportunities gives everyone unlimited space to create their own lives. A strong independent woman can create a real personality, become oneself. She has enough responsibility to make her life just like she always dreamed of. It is only necessary to develop your own talents and acquire the necessary skills.
Unfortunately, educating the girl, she is taught only to play dolls, sometimes needlework or music, without trying to reveal her true abilities. Qualities of business women or mathematical abilities are better to detect at an early age, in order to have enough time for their development. The limited nature of education prevents girls from finding a place in life. So they have to count exclusively on a profitable marriage.
Unfortunately, "thanks to" the widespread opinion about "true destiny", girls and ladies for centuries were forced to abandon the important need for self-realization. It was believed that the joys of motherhood, needlework and homework they are quite enough, and interest in "male" occupation was considered abnormal and "sinful." To choose their hobbies and profession received the opportunity of an emancipated woman. This raised her life to a different, more qualitative level - development stops if a person does not do what he is inclined to.
Even now the need to cognize, purposefulness, strength of character are considered only masculine traits. A business woman often can not achieve recognition and trust of partners because of stereotypes that have developed in the society, which often leads to refusal to engage in business even before the beginning of a career. To achieve self-esteem can only be real actions, it is necessary to continue to move on, not paying attention to the opinions of others.
Myths and Misconceptions
The image of a magical prince on a white horse is the most dangerous dream, imposed on girls since childhood. Subsequently, single women up to old age cherish this myth. They were told that they can achieve a happy life only by a very successful marriage, and they simply do not need to study and achieve something themselves. A fairy-tale hero will inevitably appear, who, captivated by beauty, will solve all the problems, defeat the enemies and wake her with a magic kiss.
It is extremely difficult to find financial and creative independence with such a worldview, or rather, it is impossible. Moreover, constantly counting on male help in exchange for her external qualities and love, the girl reduces herself to the level of the goods and is deprived of freedom of choice. Now the man will decide everything, her opinion will cease to be important. A happy woman is a person who is in harmony with the environment and herself, it is worth learning how to be the main hero in your own life.
Weak true femininity
We must also mention the myths about the "true destiny" and "weakness" of women, with which are filled with tabloid novels, glossy magazines, popular sites. They are created for a clear distribution of gender roles in the society of the past and have remained in the modern world as a harmful relic. Misconceptions deprive the girls of self-confidence and prevent really from taking place in life, to reveal real abilities, strictly limiting it in choosing a life path.
This opinion of the society provides scope for manipulation in the family, creates a negative image in the team. An independent woman today does not correspond much to such definitions. There are many ladies who, in physical, spiritual, life-force, surpass some men.
Harmony of life
Everyone is now given the freedom to arrange their own destiny in accordance with their own choice. A happy woman always moves forward confidently, not listening to the stories of "well-wishers" about her "true destiny". Relations, work, hobbies, cognition is quite easy to combine harmoniously. It is not necessary to sacrifice one for the sake of another, it will lead to a rather dull existence.
The life of a business lady, worried only by her own business and nothing else, is the same mistake as the vegetation of the "exemplary wife" between the stove, the baby crib and the vacuum cleaner. Any business woman knows that fatigue and fanaticism will not help in achieving the goal and will not exactly add happiness. To get the joy of being in your own destiny, you must observe the golden mean and not devote all the time to just one lesson. Walking through the woods, meeting with friends, hobbies, will help to relax from everyday routine, and skillfully planned day - to find time for pleasant things.
Famous psychologists have long noticed among the characteristics of man a kind of instinct that encourages self-development. The desire to become a real person, having shown will, to declare yourself, to do something important for the world in which you live, changing it, is the same natural need as food, security, sex. The absence of the possibility of self-improvement becomes the cause of depressive states, neuroses, complexes.
In other words, any individuality is not enough household amenities and entertainment, one must find oneself in life. The necessity of freedom and creativity is inherent in nature itself, and their absence leads to self-destruction, and this distinguishes man from animal or machine. Devote yourself to a distant, but achievable and desired goal, by making the world around better, then find a future. To live only for today, without thinking about the meaning of existence is to lose yourself.
The need for creative search
The desire to find one's own way is an integral part of the personality. Self-expression is not at all a passive contemplation of one's own life. Real development can only be achieved through a conscious desire to create. Existence, based only on fleeting pleasures, can not be called full-fledged. Everyone from birth is given special abilities that turn from gift to punishment, if not used. Unmanifested talents can seriously affect health - they simply begin to destroy the psyche and the body from within, causing disease.
Ambition, perseverance, determination will help in choosing the necessary activities. An independent woman will find her true calling necessarily. Her trump card is that inner power, which is incredibly afraid of society based on prohibitions and restrictions.
The power of money can forever hide the girl behind the "stone wall" of a dull marriage, force her to renounce her personality, creativity, and knowledge. A woman in modern society becomes successful, acquires independence, financial stability, if she can find her own business of life. It is necessary to become a really mature person, take responsibility, get involved in the rhythm of life.
Only it is not worth it for the sake of money to occupy all free time with a hard work, devoid of any creativity. Such work does not adorn existence, but promotes loss of personality, develops complexes, deprives the will. It is much better to understand what to do really interesting, and to learn this work, get an appropriate education, take courses.
It is also important to be able to manage your own finances. If you carefully plan your expenses, you can save a lot, money will stop "leaking" from your personal budget.
Necessity of education
The development of skills and the accumulation of knowledge will help to get out of the life stalemate. A huge role here is played by education. Emancipated woman is well aware of this and does not take into account the advice of well-wishers regarding the unnecessary learning for the future wife of a wealthy husband. Additional skills and useful information will always be useful for your own development, as well as for quality professional growth.
Becoming a part of the new life program, the acquisition of new knowledge can strengthen the woman's determination in her future plans, help to see new facets of the chosen path, avoid many mistakes. A good education will also allow you to start climbing the career ladder from the most profitable level. In addition, it is necessary to further study the sciences necessary for the chosen case.
Unfortunately, the changed attitude of close people can become an obstacle in finding a new life. The patriarchal society will always discourage the woman's autonomy. Having become a part of this environment, relatives, sincerely wishing for good, can try to force them to return to the former way of existence with the help of persuasion, threats, censure. This test will be the most difficult obstacle to yourself, because you will have to stand up to people who are dear to the heart.
Friends and family are people who know all ways of manipulating people better than others. An independent woman - perhaps an unusual phenomenon for a husband or parents. They want to see the familiar face of a mother, a wife, a friend and do not want to let go of him. It is worth explaining to relatives how important the changes are for personal development and the overall success of the family. Loving people in difficult situations will always support, and the successes of their daughter, wife, girlfriend will cause their joy.
Of course, for the sake of self-improvement, you will have to risk, sacrifice your old habits and step into the unknown, which is always frightening, but the reward will be the joy and satisfaction from finding yourself. The new life of an independent woman is always the result of the hardest choice that can be made only by a real person, between a cozy vegetation and the need for a heavy second-per-second overcoming of the past.
To better understand what changes are needed, what should be abandoned, and what to find, you can imagine your successful appearance in a few years. What associations arise at the word "happiness", "harmony", "luck"? A strict image of a business woman, the silhouette of an intellectual lady or the shadow of a reckless traveler in the desert sand ... There are many options. Choose the most who will become the new I am - an incredible feeling. Real creativity is the creation of one's own life.
A modern woman can really become independent, despite the vestiges of the past that exist today. She will need willpower, dedication, desire to learn and her own readiness for change. Public consciousness today has preserved many misconceptions about the abilities and role of women in society. A girl can not listen to someone else's opinion about herself, it is necessary to develop the ability to resist manipulation and attempts of the environment to impede its development. Freedom of expression is the highest need of any person. The courage to take full responsibility for one's own destiny is necessary for the creativity of one's life.