When is sex possible after pregnancy?

When is sex possible after pregnancy? Let's find out this nuance in detail in this article. Of course, this is a great moment - the acquisition of the status of mother. But do the ladies remember that when they become mothers, they do not cease to be women? Beautiful, beloved and desired?

Many parents say that the first intimacy after birth is reminiscent of "sex for the first time."

Some mothers still in the maternity home dream of how they will again have sex. And indeed, such dreams turn into reality. But ladies of this type, alas, not enough. Statistics show that about 50% of new moms within two months after the appearance of the baby can not restore sexual relations. It is interesting that 18% of women in labor can not solve this problem for a year! And yet, how much you can not have sex after pregnancy?

When?

So, sex after pregnancy is desirable to start practicing not earlier than five to six weeks after childbirth. After all, during this period the uterus gradually returns to its original size, heals the place of placenta attachment. And indeed, when the placenta separates from the uterine wall, a solid wound remains in its place. And if an infection gets into it during copulation, the case may end with endometritis (uterine inflammation).

In order for sex after pregnancy to be full, the vagina should take the same outlines: after all, after the birth of the baby, it is stretched. As a rule, seven weeks after the birth, everything is normalized. In order for the process to be more successful, gynecologists are advised to perform Kegel exercises, which strengthen the muscles of the perineum and the vagina.

It is known that in the last century the gynecologist Arnold Kegel created them specifically for those ladies who had involuntary urination after childbirth. Further it was found out, that the given charging raises a sexual tone, strengthens blood supply and even allows to supervise an orgasm.

You need to find out which muscles you need to exercise? Try to retard the urine stream at the time of urination. The muscles with which you have done this are called the perineal muscles. Now we need to perform the main task: to learn how to relax and strain them at the maximum, at first slowly, and then at a fast pace. For sex after pregnancy to bring pleasure, to train them definitely will not hurt. Exercises do and lie in bed, and during a walk, and at the TV.

Cesarean section

And when it is possible to have sex after pregnancy, which cesarean section ended? It would Seem, after similar sorts of a problem should not arise. Many people think that in this case, you can immediately engage in sex. Indeed, because the vagina has not completely changed. Only the placental wound is cicatrized in the same way as after normal birth.

In addition, the scar that appears on the uterus, heals about six weeks. It is interesting that a seam placed on the skin of the abdomen can heal much earlier.

I do not want or can not?

Very often the doctor allows sexual pleasures, but the woman is indifferent to them. Do not rush to diagnose frigidity. It is necessary to understand why sex is disgusting to you. After all, the reasons can be both explicit and located in the depths of the subconscious.

We continue to consider the question of when you can have sex after pregnancy. In general, blunting of sexual desire is a kind of natural phenomenon. After all, until the baby needs constant mother care, while he can not exist on his own, the next baby is not needed by the parent. That's why the body of a woman giving birth reduces the amount of estrogen (a pleasure hormone). As a consequence, there is increased dryness of the vagina, and even with too much sexual activity. But if the birth was too difficult, the newly-born mother subconsciously wishes for revenge for the partner suffered.

Many people do not want to have sex after pregnancy because of the following reasons:

• Colossal fatigue (sometimes combined with an insult to the husband who does not want to help look after the newborn), reflected in the feminine phrase: "I now have no time to have sex!".
• Feeling of own unattractiveness. Indeed, after the appearance of the child, the female figure in most cases loses its forms. However, many men like this change to taste.
• Depression postpartum. This type of depression occurs in about 10% of women. He is able to significantly reduce sexual desire.

And still young mums are simply very afraid to copulate. They are constantly worried about the same question: "Can I have sex after pregnancy?" They may worry, for example, that:

• The process will be painful, or the wound has not been tightened properly. To overcome this fear, you just need to see a doctor. After all, only a specialist will be able to determine in what state the organism after delivery.
• At the most important moment, the baby will wake up. Fear strikes a woman, and she can not relax. In this case, it is better to ask a nanny or grandmother a few hours to walk with the baby on the street.
• There will be a new unwanted pregnancy. It should be remembered that there are many methods of contraception. You just need to choose the best option.

Contraception

As already mentioned, in this review we consider sex after pregnancy. When it is possible and when it is undesirable to deal with it, it is this question that is of interest to us now. So, there is an opinion among the people that while the mother has not recovered the menstrual cycle, or while she is breast-feeding, there is no way to become pregnant again. This is not true! Moreover, until the cycle has normalized, a new pregnancy can not be noticed. Menstruation may appear on the twenty-eighth day after delivery, or it may not appear during the entire lactation period, but this nuance does not mean that you are insured against pregnancy. What to do now?

The calendar method is useless here. It is also effective at the usual time only in 50% of cases, and when monthly are irregular, it is not worth hoping for. With regard to hormonal tablets, the opinions of doctors are not the same. Some say that hormones, getting into the mother's milk, are dangerous for the baby, while others insist that the current hormonal contraceptives will not influence the child. You must decide, but you can not prescribe yourself such a drug yourself. This is the prerogative of a professional doctor. In principle, this option is very reliable and effective at 97-99%.

So, the hormonal drug is introduced as follows:

• Orally (tablets are taken daily, and of course, at the same time).
• Injection (contraceptive injection). Here, contraindications and indications are the same as those of tablets, but the form of administration is different (the drug is effective from 8 to 12 weeks).
• Contraceptive capsule, which is injected under the skin, placed on the shoulder. It operates for five years, but it can be liquidated at any time.

The intrauterine device is 98% productive, but it can be used after delivery not earlier than six weeks, provided that the mother has no gynecological chronic diseases.

Contraception barrier (spermicide, condom, diaphragm) works at 85-97%. Very effective is the combination of spermicide and diaphragm (spermicide before the introduction of the diaphragm is applied to its dome).

"First" love experience

Many mothers say that the first sex after pregnancy is similar to "the very first copulation". This moment must know the spouse burning with passion. After all, he needs a maximum of tenderness and patience in order to revive the love affair. Of course, at first he and his wife will have to share not only the bed, but also the home worries.

It is known that to relieve muscle tension, massage is desirable (preferably with the use of essential oils). You need to choose a position in which you can independently adjust the depth and frequency of penetration, for example, the pose "rider". To reduce the dryness of the vagina, many use special gels and lubricants purchased in the intimate shop. It is very important that Mom was confident in its attractiveness. By the way, the male look is much less picky than the female.

Many argue that it is the revival of sexual relations that completes the postpartum period and begins a new phase of family life.

Abortion

Many people ask, when it is possible to have sex after the termination of pregnancy? Consider this topic. Almost every lady has ever had an abortion. Or carried out medical abortions of pregnancy, which are becoming more popular today. Of course, patients have questions: "And how should you behave after a simple abortion, how to protect yourself, and what to do after a medical abortion?" The questions are quite acceptable and natural. Of course, all the rules should be explained by the doctor, but he does not always have time to tell about them, and sometimes even "forgets".

Medical abortion

And what schedule does sex have after the medical termination of pregnancy? It is known that such abortion is carried out with the help of medicines, without the intervention of surgeons. That is why it is called the pharmacological interruption of pregnancy.

For its implementation apply "Mifegin", which refers to anti-progestagenic steroid drugs. "Mifegin" interrupts pregnancy in the same way as a miscarriage.

In general, a medical abortion is performed on an outpatient basis, and after taking the pill the patient returns home. To avoid complications, a woman must repeatedly report to a women's consultation, where she will undergo a control ultrasound. It is known that discharge after a medical abortion does not stop until three weeks.

The lady is recommended to abstain during this period from sexual activity. After all, sex is an exercise that can exacerbate uterine bleeding. In addition, after a medical abortion (as well as after a surgical procedure, however), the uterus looks like an open wound, it takes a long time to heal. And if you do not follow medical recommendations, the risk of inflammation of the sexual organs of the woman increases. In addition, after the drug abortion, the cervical canal is opened, so that infection can easily enter the uterine cavity.

It is very difficult to practice sex after a drug abortion. After interruption of an interesting situation very often leads to a shift in the menstrual cycle in any direction or its violation. That is why ovulation (maturation of the egg) can appear 12 days after the drug abortion, which does not exclude the possibility of becoming pregnant again.

Of course, it must be taken into account that pregnancy tests can not help in its diagnosis. After all, during a certain period (about a month) after abortion , gonadotropin chorionic (HCG) circulates in the blood, on the basis of which pregnancy is determined. In fact, in this version the test can present a false positive result.

Generally, as a rule, from copulation abstain before the start of another menstruation, which usually begins in four weeks.

Problems after drug abortion

So, sex after the interruption of pregnancy by various drugs can be practiced after the cessation of bleeding. Otherwise, there may be various complications:

• Bleeding after medical abortion, which may require the intervention of surgeons (scraping of the uterine cavity).
• Pregnancy ectopic (urgent surgery is needed),
• Pregnancy is a progressive or failed drug abortion (also requires scraping of the uterine cavity).
• The appearance of inflammation in the female genitalia (pain during intercourse).

General instructions

After a medical abortion, a woman should not only refrain from intimacy, but also implement the following recommendations:

• Daily monitoring of body temperature.
• It is forbidden to take a bath and visit the pool.
• The bladder and intestines should be emptied regularly.
• The rules of hygiene must be carefully observed.
• The question of contraception must be resolved. In fact, the optimal tablets are "mini-saws" or a spiral intrauterine.

Ectopic pregnancy

And when is sex possible after an ectopic pregnancy? In general, the wound surface here heals within a month, dense scars appear on the site of the incisions, which can not be ruptured during copulation.

By the way, you can not practice sexual pleasures within a month for the purpose of preventing infection. After all, inflammation and damaged tissues create a comfortable environment for reproduction and growth of bacteria, which in any case will provoke a purulent process in the abdominal cavity. And this nuance will complicate the treatment and cause the need for a repeat operation.

In addition, injured tissues will never provide an adequate barrier to pathogenic bacteria living in the vagina. Therefore, copulation will lead to the appearance of an infection that will ascend as far as the uterus, tubes and ovaries.

Frozen pregnancy

So, sex after an ectopic pregnancy can be practiced only after the tightening of all wounds. And what is a frozen pregnancy? Oh, this is a dangerous kind of interesting situation, which must necessarily be interrupted. Interruption here, as a rule, is performed by the method of scraping. A woman after such a procedure should give up sexual comfort for at least one or two weeks. It is this period that is needed for the cervix to close and the internal surface to heal.

Of course, sex after a dead pregnancy will bring only joy. But it must be abandoned for a certain period of time, since the cervix is open, and its internal surface is only a huge open wound. Where did it come from? Yes, just the upper part of the mucosa and the egg with the membranes were removed.

As a result, opportunistic and pathogenic microorganisms can easily get from the vagina to the uterus, and from there to get into the systemic bloodstream. In general, bacteria can affect the appearance of severe inflammatory-infectious processes in various organs (uterus, tubes, ovaries).

Sexual acts only accelerate the penetration of bacteria into the uterine cavity. To prevent infection and need to refrain from vaginal sex for a short period of time. Partners must wait for the closure of the cervix and healing of its internal surface.

Only after scarring of all internal wounds can you mate. There are no other restrictions to love joys after a stagnant pregnancy.

Interestingly, after scraping for two weeks, you can do anal and oral sex. If this type of pregnancy resulted in spontaneous miscarriage or drug abortion, it is necessary to abstain from sex until the end of the bleeding, which can last about two weeks.

Sex

In fact, every doctor tells the woman in childbirth that with natural childbirth before six weeks of sexual life can not be renewed. Of course, this does not mean that after the end of this period, you can instantly practice violent sex. First you need to go to the gynecologist, so that he confirms that the process of restoring the sexual organs of women is completed.

Why it is forbidden to copulate immediately after childbirth? At the woman the cervix of the uterus at this period is uncovered, and the genitals are a continuous wound - it is possible to catch the infection quite easily.

And if you consider that many mothers have suffered an episiotomy (cut of the perineum) with suturing, sex is allowed only after their healing. In this case, not only the perineum can be torn, but also the cervix during intercourse. It is known that even in the church after childbirth is allowed to enter only after the expiration of forty days, and this is just under six weeks.

In general, to engage in amorous pleasures after childbirth is forbidden, if there are discharges, inflammation of sutures or female organs, severe pain. It is very rare to meet a man who understands that after giving birth it is forbidden to have sex because of physical weakness of the body.

Let us consider the moral side of the question. If there is a psychological barrier, how to be? Some women are afraid to start sex again, they are afraid not only of pain. Even after scraping, the first copulation for many is psychologically difficult.

However, it should be noted that many ladies after the birth begin to experience new sensations. The main thing is not to be afraid, to act carefully and delicately. In general, each pair decides itself, when to begin to engage in amorous pleasures after childbirth, but the advice of doctors can not be neglected in any case.