How to Ask Forgiveness

It seems that it may be simpler than the short word "Forgive," but it is given to many only with great difficulty. And the most common obstacle is his own pride or inability to correctly ask for forgiveness. Meanwhile, in time and correctly said "forgive!" Can be salutary for our relationships with loved ones. But the reluctance or inability to apologize often create negative scenarios in life, destroy alliances and even families.

It is especially difficult to apologize to those who are accustomed to feeling all the right. Such people find it difficult to admit their guilt, and even in their own eyes they try to justify their actions. Although, for fairness sake, we must admit that they have much harder than others. They experience the tragedy inside, they can reproach themselves, but they will never force themselves to say "Forgive me!" The greater they are capable of: convincing themselves that nothing terrible has happened and let the situation run its course.
There are also people who simply do not know how to apologize, can not find the right words, and think that by saying something inadvertently, they will only spoil the situation even more.

So how to properly ask for forgiveness?

Family psychologists have a rule of three "P": this is repentance, decision and result.
Let's talk about them in more detail.

The first "R" is repentance. Sincere repentance is a necessary condition in reconciliation. When it is, words of forgiveness will come. If you can show regret and understanding of the emotions of another person - your forgiveness will be accepted. Sincere forgiveness is possible when there is a mutual experience of the offender and the offended.
The second "R" - the decision to recognize responsibility for their actions. When there is such a solution, a person does not try to justify himself and put the blame on another. The decision to admit your guilt is showing that you completely control all your actions and are responsible for your actions.
The third "P" is the result or the intention to correct the situation. Made, as they say, you can not correct, but you can fix the future. Psychologists advise, asking for forgiveness, to discuss a plan for further actions that would improve the situation. By this you show that you not only regret your fault, but also wish to avoid it in the future.