Communication as interaction

Everyone needs communication from birth. Communication between people can be divided into three important aspects: perception, communication and interaction. An interesting fact is that if it is possible to meet the perception or communication in a "pure form", that is, separately from all other components of communication, then it is almost impossible to single out communication as an interaction in a separate line.

The very name of this process already carries the meaning of doing something: "He pushed me to something", "It presses on me, but I do not succumb to it" or "It adapts itself to me."

Communication as interaction requires active participation in a conversation between two interlocutors. And if communicative communication is limited only by communication of information, and perception - simply by listening to someone else's opinion, then any reaction of the interlocutor turns the process of communication into another category.

Some people experience communication difficulties. The reasons are very different. Autism, inability to express one's thoughts, shyness and secrecy lead to the fact that the personality closes within itself, it is capable only of perception, but apparently does not react to the information received.

Gradually, people who just like the air need a response from their interlocutor, begin to bypass such a person side. And in vain! Very often, behind silentness and outward detachment, a tender, responsive heart lurks, and deep spiritual work is constantly carried on inside. And if someone manages to "talk", arrange this nature to himself, turn ordinary perception into communication as interaction, then he will be extremely lucky. The best counselor and friend, perhaps, not to be found in all the world.

Individuals are more common, especially among women, who themselves create communication problems for their interlocutors by the fact that they prefer the exclusively communicative side in conversation. About these people they say that they are like a wood grouse on the current. Spreading unnecessary information to anyone, completely not thinking about whether it is interesting to anyone but them, they impose their form of communication, absolutely not interested in the opinion of the interlocutor. Such a "game in one gate" - this is certainly not communication as interaction!

What do you need to know a person who wants to be a pleasant interlocutor or has set himself the goal of proving something or using the conversation to change the opinion of his "vis-a-vis"?

In spite of the fact that it seems to all of us that there is something to do, and we should not talk about chatting, there are certain rules for conducting conversations. After all, the conduct of a conversation is basically a science!

The first condition for communication between the two to occur precisely as interaction, and, moreover, effective - is the correct distribution of the positions of the interlocutors. That is, in each specific situation, one is the lead and the other is the slave. During the conversation, this "subordination" should be observed.

The position of the facilitator also has its divisions into the "controller" and the "observer". In the first case, communication relies on the desire to manage the situation and the desire to dominate. This kind of communication is not always pleasant to the learned, so basically people try to contact people as rarely as possible - "supervisors".

In the second case, the position of the facilitator can be considered as based on the concept of equality of interlocutors. Here a huge role is played by the leader's desire to do without conflicts, to understand his partner and to reach mutual agreement and satisfactory results of negotiations. It is with such people that it is extremely pleasant to communicate, those around them appreciate, even regardless of whether the results were really real. After all, contact with people of this kind of store leaves a pleasant feeling in the soul that the interlocutor saw into the problem and made an attempt to help.

Hence the postulate: if you want people to communicate and want to contact you, try to understand them, take the position of equality, even if they ask you for advice or advice.