What if I fell in love with a friend?

Friends are people close to you. You can always trust them. And you can always hope for good advice from them. But what should a woman do if she suddenly falls in love with a friend? How to behave?

I fell in love with a friend. What should I do first?

So, in order. What if you fell in love with a friend? To begin with, simply understand: a friend is a close person. But it is not worth turning it into a lover. Of course, you can try. But the negative consequences can not wait long to force. A friend may, for example, take offense. Or worse, start dating you, not experiencing reciprocity. In a word, absolutely nothing positive! In general, think carefully. Otherwise, you risk losing both your friend and your loved one at the same time. Or maybe you just do not have enough attention ...

Secondly

If you fell in love with a friend, think about finding a young man for yourself. Or about a girl for him. It happens, of course, the guys of their passions are thrown for the sake of the so-called girlfriends. But this happens infrequently. And even a lonely friend of the second half is not always necessary.

By the way, friends (of different sexes) very often have absolutely different characteristics. When choosing a friend for appearance, as a rule, do not look. But when choosing a partner - on the contrary. The same goes for hobbies. You will adequately react, for example, to the fact that your friend is sitting at the computer from morning till night. At the same time, your beloved man will disappoint you in this case.

Thirdly

The next moment. If you fell in love with a friend, think about the desires of each of you. It is very important. No matter how difficult it is, it is still possible to build a relationship. If the friend does not answer you in return, maybe you do not need to tell him anything? Take it and fall in love with it! It happens, it's difficult ... But you can! Try every method that you are used to using, attracting representatives of the opposite sex. Try to be an ideal woman both externally and internally.

And fourthly

By the way, sometimes it happens: sometimes she even hated her friend in her own way, then fell in love. How can I explain this? It's hard ... But it happens. The main thing, if you are not sure of this, do not start taking any action. Nothing good will end there.

Do not forget that, falling in love with your friend, you take on a double responsibility. After you start a romantic relationship, you will never be friends (in the event that the feelings cool down). Well, if as a woman you are not interested in a guy, he does not want to see you in the future. He may think that you communicated with him solely because of plans for further serious relationship. And you will not be easy. After all, this person is not indifferent to you.

In a word, love from friendship is not so easy to make. And your efforts may not be worth it. Although, if you are sure of your feelings, maybe you do not need to despair?

In a friend, but not in his ...

Things happen and more serious. What, for example, to do if you fell in love with your friend's best friend or husband? Imagine how terrible this is! After all, everything seems to be good for you. But suddenly your chosen one acquaints you with an attractive man ... Or even, on the contrary, with a young man, nothing remarkable. In any case, something in your soul can suddenly overturn something. It seems to you that without this person you can not even live anymore. Time goes by, and thoughts are all about him and about him. To your fiancé or spouse you become indifferent.

The problem is what? The fact that you do not know how to do it right. Do you really have to abandon a person with whom you live together more than one month, or even more than one year. Or is it better to try to forget a new friend? But what if it does not work out?

In general, the test is very serious. Do not rush to make a final decision. Try to be alone with yourself. Feelings, of course, can be very strong, but you should not go on about passion.

But what if it's real?

"I fell in love with a boyfriend," girls often say. The topic is quite popular today. If this happened to you, do not doubt that you are not at all alone. And advice different people can give a lot - the most controversial.

By the way, Freud himself persuaded people of the reasons that affect our desires. Perhaps, in your relationship with a guy or spouse, not everything suited you. Perhaps you were looking for a different man, without knowing? Many ladies specifically check their spells, trying to prove to themselves that they are seductive. The problem may be that the girl will be carried away and fall in love with her own "sacrifice".

A friend of a beloved man can attract you even more by his inaccessibility. Therefore, the feelings may not actually be as strong as they seem. Infatuation with another may also appear because the girl is offended by her partner for some reason. Thus, she avenges, inflicts a strong blow to her chosen one.

Though feelings can be real. In this case, you have to solve the problem, as far as possible tactfully. So that his beloved lover does not cause pain.

To risk or it is not necessary?

And finally. The question before you was: what to do if you fell in love with a friend? How, then, is it better to do it? Keep friendly relations? Or confess your love to a friend? Or maybe even enter into an intimate relationship with a man so that your boyfriend does not know anything about it? The latter option will be completely unpredictable and therefore too dangerous. It's not a secret to anyone that the secret comes sooner or later. If the truth eventually pops up, you will find yourself in an extremely unattractive position. Yes, and a man who entered into a close relationship with the wife of a best friend, this situation clearly does not paint. Think also about the fact that he deceived his comrade. Why in the future he will not deceive you?

Probably the best thing is to be frank. Tell the whole story to your husband or boyfriend. Act neatly. Help him overcome the feeling of jealousy. Just remember that this method will help only if you know how to understand each other.

However, it is desirable to look at the situation rationally. Just take and compare between the two men. Assess the quality of each of them. Which one is better? With whom can you feel truly happy? Who is more attracted to you? And what happens if you suddenly lose your current man? Think well! Do not make a mistake!