The best friend of the family: is there a superfluous third?

The family should have a certain balance between closeness and openness. On the one hand, it's bad when one of the spouses is too addicted to external people. On the other hand, it is not better if the spouses fixate on each other and isolate the social cell from the outside world. In order not to be afraid that the best friend of the family will destroy it, you need to work on relationships and trust the closest person.

Well, when a friend of the family becomes a person, very authoritative for all its members, for example, a priest, a doctor or a psychologist. Such a friend can be very useful in resolving family conflicts and misunderstandings. If the best friend of the family is a professional in dealing with people, in case of a dispute, you can refer to him as an arbitrator and be sure that he sympathizes with you and will do everything to help you.

Often the best friend of the family is in fact only the best friend of one of the spouses. One way or another, he refers to the male or female sex, and therefore either shows solidarity to the spouse of one sex with him, or tries to attract the attention of the spouse of the opposite sex. The most dramatic situations happen when a girlfriend outwardly sympathizes with his wife, enters into trust, and then leads away from her husband's family. A man-friend acts so less often, it is more difficult for men to betray more sincere solidarity and friends.

Often people can not own their emotions, and even a sense of duty can not prevent entrainment. A friend of the family at an early stage of relations is a new person, and to one of the spouses it may seem more interesting than the second half. What should the second wife do? Wait and try to distract the enthusiastic husband or wife. We need to set new tasks for the family: to build a dacha, to prepare a child for the institute, to realize the plans that are of interest to both of them, to engage in personal development under the guidance of the spouse. And then the best friend of the family will go to the background. If you give your spouse enough information he needs and implement ideas with him, after a while the passion will pass, and everything will return to normal. The main thing is not to make scenes of jealousy, it looks ugly and shows your weakness. If, on the contrary, you are carried away by a friend of the family, and your loved one is jealous, you need to think that despite the novelty and interest, your spouse is still more valuable, because with him you decided to build a joint future. Try to communicate less with a friend or girlfriend, so as not to provoke a loved one. Also, always communicate in the presence of a husband or wife, so that he does not suspect you of infidelity.

It is best to be friends with married couples. Of course, in this case the probability of infidelity remains, but still marriage for most people means more hobbies.

Drain yourself from the thought that your loved one should only belong to you. If he is happy, communicating with several people, and the exchange of emotions is important to him as air, one can not become a jailer or a jailer. In any case, bans and scandals will not help make the family stronger. Only confidential communication with each other and more frequent conversations about relationships in general will help, but only this should be a positive talk. Do not criticize a family friend, it looks like self-doubt, especially if you showed jealousy the day before. Praise and ... take an example. Of course, blindly copy all the sense is not, the original will always prefer a copy, but some qualities and manners can be fully adopted.

The best friend of a family who is really respected and loved by both of her members is a big rarity. Therefore, if your spouse wants to "give such a position" to a new person for you, try not to reject it, but to accept and find good in it. Friends of the family often help when everyone turns away, so take care of your friendship and try to make the relationship work out successfully. A certain share of freedom makes marriage stronger.