School of relationships: true friends

A good friendship does not always begin on the neighboring pots in the kindergarten. In elementary school, finding the right friend is the easiest. Why? It's not that people become worse with age. The fact is that a small man is more flexible, more plastic. And so real friends are often familiar with early childhood - they are easier to adapt to each other.

Trace in the psyche

Children grow up, and the imprint in the soul, imposed by children's friendship, remains. If you are used to a silent friend, it will be hard for you to communicate with the talkative for a long time. And if you are not used to diluting the pauses yourself, then it's definitely hard for a silent person. What does this true true friend mean?

What to learn

To get good friends into friends , you need to learn how to help and support yourself. And sincere, kind and warm support may be more important than material or business help. Because true friendship is first and foremost a phenomenon of emotional level. A business partnership is completely different. In high school , it is desirable to learn both business and emotional communication: both of these skills will be very useful in life.

Asymmetry is natural

True friends usually know how to communicate at all levels - both close and far. Friendship is not only mutual, but also more or less unequal. We are used to the fact that only symmetry in relations is considered normal. But life shows that we are too different to be in a state of absolute equality of gain and return. How to be a true friend? The main thing is to satisfy the psychological needs of the partner, and not to consider who, to whom and how much it should.

Why make friends?

If you are having a hard time with a person or wanting too much, you should discuss this with him. And by the results of the conversation decide whether this friendship is necessary to you in principle. Selfless friendship is almost the same myth as unselfish love. After all, it is possible to receive from a friend not only values and services, but also moods, ambitions, and certainty. It is very productive friendship as a "development landmark". The most attentive and stimulating are "paid friends" - coaches. They help a person achieve their goals, relying on competence in a certain area and psychological training.

Constructive approach

Real friends are people who are able to focus on someone else's problem and look for constructive solutions. They give good advice that can really help. If the person next to you is really worried about you, he will give cautious, thoughtful advice that takes into account many factors. If people of this type are with you around, consider that you are very lucky.

True friends are those who complement you. They can be very different and very different from you, but it is the difference in approaches that will allow you to solve complex "one left" problems if you have joined together. Just if you want to find good friends, "turn off" the calculator in your head and learn to be independent. A strong person needs communication not to be able to parasitize, but for a rich leisure and bright personal growth. Learn to be friends - and share your strength with others.