Sexual maturation of boys - the process of becoming a man

Many noticed that schoolgirls in the middle classes look more mature than their peers. Particularly often pay attention to this the parents of boys - some perceive it calmly, and others start to worry: is there not a delay in my child's sexual development? The suspicion increases with every passing day: now all the friends of the son seem taller and more courageous, the girlfriends are the real girls at all, and her own blood is still the same kind of baby as she was a year or two ago.

There is no reason for concern - each vegetable has its own time limit! The fact that the puberty of boys "starts" a couple of years later than their girlfriends, and it does not have a clear time frame. The first signs of sexual maturation can be found in the boy at 12 and 13, but even the beginning of puberty (puberty) at 15 years is not a deviation. It is difficult to observe this process from the outside, firstly, since boys during this period become terribly shy and secretive, and are not at all inclined to show parents the changes taking place with their body. Secondly, the position of an outside observer is far from the most correct, because a teenager is very worried about whether everything is right with him, and, perhaps, he needs advice or at least encouragement. So it is very important to establish a trustful relationship with the son and be ready at any time to show good knowledge and possession of such an "object" not from the school curriculum, as sex education of boys.

As a rule, the pope must remember where and how it began. First a little increase in the size of the testicles and scrotum, then they begin to "catch up" the penis, and on the pubic and armpits the first hairs grow. Perhaps, at this moment on the desk your boyfriend will have a ruler, which formerly rarely left the darkness of a box or briefcase, and there is nothing strange or terrible in it. Although he, and you - the more these measurements will not give anything, because there are no men with an organ with more individual characteristics than a penis. If you casually hint at this son, perhaps this will save him from unnecessary worries that accompany the puberty of boys.

The modern information space and "savvy" of the young generation save parents from explaining such concepts as erection or masturbation. But if to such phenomenon, as pollutions (the first nocturnal ejaculations), you will spend one of the conversations with the son, it will not be superfluous. Since it is impossible to predict when this will happen, it is better to talk about pollutions earlier - at 10-11 years of age. Let it be an unreliable, easy story in general terms: there is, they say, such a stage in the life of every man, he will happen to you, treat him calmly - this means that you grow up. In general, less terms, detail! You yourself are useful to read the medical encyclopedia, but not necessarily verbatim to tell it to your offspring. It is enough for him, if you briefly describe to him, what is the sexual maturation of men. It is important to put in his ears the main idea: it happens to everyone, so it will be with him, and a year earlier or a year later - it does not matter. Let her perceive her growing up as a natural process, and not try to speed it up.

A good help in this case is the fact that the puberty of boys is by no means confined to "what is below the belt". At the same time, bones and muscles are actively growing, musculature is more prominent, hair appears on the face, the voice "breaks". The boy gradually becomes a young man, a man. In dealing with him, do not separate one change from another, do not "get hung up" on one thing. Speaking about shaving, touch on the topic of hygiene of the genitals. Noting how he grew up, talk about relationships with girls. Do not force - about contraception tell the next time. Do not demonize masturbation, but you can make it clear that the excitement is doing well in sports. In general, show both ingenuity and tact.

Summarizing, it is possible to put forward the thesis that the puberty of boys is much easier in psychological terms, both for the son and for the parents, if there is a good trust between them.