How to recognize the "toxic" friendship?

When you surround yourself with friends, you have a chance to live longer in comparison with single people. This is the unanimity of researchers from Australia and Harvard. A 10-year Australian study found that people with friends live an average of 22 percent longer. Employees Harvard University identified the optimal condition for happiness. In their opinion, those of us whose friends live within a mile radius are happy.

However, friendship, like love, has a downside. Your best friend during a lifetime can move to another city or change his worldview. At some point you will feel that you have lost confidence in him and can no longer be with this person. Communication becomes more and more rare and gradually comes to naught. Sometimes minor troubles, misunderstandings and conflicts are quickly resolved, and friendship only grows stronger. But sometimes a conflictual attitude can become an alarm bell for the upcoming disintegration. How do you know that friendship has transformed and become "toxic"? There are a few obvious signs before you.

A friend often asks you for favors

The functions of friends are to help in a difficult moment. However, this model should not resemble a one-way street. Do you have the impression that you have become a nurse, a psychotherapist and the main source of financial assistance? Then be careful. This man is like a leech and enjoys your kindness with pleasure. Why look for ways out of the financial crisis? After all, there is a true friend who will not only lend money on occasion, but will not insist on a return. In addition, if this person is too dependent on you, he takes away an even more important component of resources - precious time.

You do not want to meet this person and breathe a sigh of relief when he leaves

It all started with arguments, in which no one wanted to give in. Then the conflict began to manifest itself in other moments. You began to observe that this person began to avoid you. When hinting at a meeting, he constantly refers to employment. Think about something that clearly went wrong here. Also keep in mind that friendly relations are voluntary.

You suffer from the unpredictability of your friend

Some "toxic" people are so unpredictable that they constantly bring or put other people in an awkward position. If you had a common business, you would have gone bankrupt long ago. This person is not accustomed to keep his word and does not seek to fulfill the obligations to you. When you are in constant expectation of new "tricks", this negatively affects your psyche. As a result, your constant companions become anxiety, nervousness and depression.

You experience unpleasant symptoms

A joyful meeting with former classmates causes nothing but excitement, sweet memories and smiles. Meeting in a cafe with friends charges with a positive and good mood. However, this does not always happen. If you notice that after the meeting the head begins to crack with pain, there is heartburn, nausea or stomach cramps, so the body itself signals the "toxicity" of this person. If your mind refuses to see the obvious, then the body comes to a safety net. When will you finally understand that these relationships do more harm than good?

A friend does not notice his own shortcomings

A good friend is ready to recognize his problems, and not to take a defensive position. If, in response to your criticism, he is increasingly offended, the problem lies in him. No, it's not about too much sensitivity. His pride does not allow him to admit his wrong.

It undermines trust

Friendship does not forgive betrayal. A person who betrays one time will do this in the future. Undermining trust can put an end to the relationship.