Family Life Cycle

After two loving people got married, a family life comes , which is full of the most unpredictable twists of fate. Unfortunately, it's only in the fairytale after the wedding that "they lived happily ever after and died in one day", in reality, spouses have to face a huge number of difficulties and overcome the so-called crises of family life.

The psychology of marital relations includes quite a few different aspects, however, one can say with confidence that almost all couples face identical problems. Experts conditionally divide the married life of the spouses into certain stages, each of which has its own characteristics.

So, a certain period of time that the couple lived in marriage, psychologists call the following: the life cycle of the family. It must be said that the family is constantly in development and is going through some sort of stages.

Everything begins literally from the first day, when the happy newly married couple begin their joint life. Some argue that over time, feelings fade, others believe that "apple of discord" is a household problem, however, many families live up to the most golden wedding.

It is necessary to understand that for each period of married life, there are specific features and standard problems that practically everyone has to face at a certain stage. Let's look at each period of the couple's life in more detail.

The first life cycle of the family comes when the couple begins to lead a joint farm and live in the same territory. Nowadays such a notion as "civil marriage" is quite common, it must be said that a man and a woman who are in a relationship without a stamp in the passport go through the period of "grinding" the characters during this period in the same way as a couple who are legally married. If a person has formed values of life and beliefs, you can safely change and adapt to the partner, because in this case, you will not lose your individuality in any way. Everyone before marriage had his own habits and traditions in the family where he used to live, therefore, when everything in the family life is not the same as a person has become accustomed to, he begins to feel that everything is different, and the first scandals and quarrels begin.

Often it happens that the next life cycle of the family comes when the couple is still not ready for it at all and the first stage has not passed, it begins with the birth of a child. The spouses have new roles and responsibilities. For this period is characterized by the emergence of jealousy of one of the spouses, who feels deprived of the attention of the second half. Most often men are jealous of wives, who now devote all their time to the baby, and women in turn can be jealous of the husband to work and his active lifestyle. A special influence in this period can be provided by the parents' families, who often interfere and try to influence the life of the young couple.

After this stage is over, the life cycle of the family comes, which is connected with the growing up and upbringing of the child. First, this is the preschool years of the baby, then the period when he studies in junior classes, and then comes the transitional or adolescent age of the offspring. Now the husband and wife need to plan their time and allocate roles: who will help with the studies, and who will take on the domestic chores. The atmosphere in the family depends on how peacefully and diplomatically this question is resolved. Very often a couple has a second child, and with it a new wave of worries and difficulties that the couple have to face.

When the family has already overcome all these cycles in a married life, the time comes when children become independent (they marry or simply start living separately). Now the husband and wife will again be "alone" with each other and organize their life. Alas, it often happens that it was the children that were the fastening link that unites the spouses and now, being alone, they face old problems and disagreements.

The psychology of family and family relations is very specific, and I want to believe that loving people will be able to overcome all the difficulties and disagreements that await them on the path of living together.