Crisis of 1 year: correct behavior of parents

Fatigue, bordering on insanity, - so describes the period psychologist Edda Le Shan. In fact, everything is somewhat different. Cope with the crisis of the first year of life can be, if in advance to develop the correct strategy of behavior.

The causes of the crisis

Closer to the first birthday of the child, parents start to notice with surprise that a child from the obedient and sweet turns into an absolutely uncontrollable being, which it is simply impossible to understand. The child constantly says "no", long refuses to fall asleep, is capricious, does not let go of himself a single inch, "hurts" when eating, fights in the playground. What is happening to him? The answer is simple: the crisis of the first year of life.

The main reason for the shocking behavior of the baby is the realization of himself as an independent person. Such independence is manifested in the child's ability to move autonomously from parents, beginning with the formation of a clear speech, copying the model of behavior of mom and dad or older siblings. All these stages of development of the baby lead to unacceptable behavior from the point of view of adults.

The time frame of this life stage is very stretched and can take an age period of 10 months to 2 years. This moment in a child's life is important to notice in time, because The crisis of 1 year is a kind of preparation for the baby on the way to the crisis of the three-year plan. And on how parents behave, it may depend on how successfully they will pass the next stage of the development of the baby.

Adult behavior strategy

If parents have noticed that the crisis of the first year of life has come, then they should gather and discuss how to react together and correctly to this or that action of the baby.

Problem: whims and uncontrollability . The solution: to remain calm and clearly understand the difference between the hysteria and the poor health of the child. At this age, in spite of certain verbal successes, the child is not yet fully accurate in expressing his emotions. Therefore, it is easiest for him to arrange a hysterics, than to explain what he still needs. In this case, do not shout or express your anger in any other way. The kid just gets scared. Instead, leave it for a couple of minutes alone. If this does not help, then it's worth switching his attention to another subject, for example, to his favorite toys or to a bird outside the window. The crisis of 1 year of life is very often accompanied by hysterics, and therefore in no case should the child be allowed to achieve what he wants with the help of hysterics.

The problem: a constant "no . " The decision: to avoid negative turns in own speech.   The crisis of 1 year is often accompanied by numerous prohibitions, and therefore "no" is a common word and quickly enters the vocabulary of the baby, becoming his favorite. The child really looks like a sponge, and his behavior at this age, in the first place, is a reflection of the behavior of the parents. That's why Mom and Dad are in place of "we will not go", "I will not give", "I can not" use "let's go tomorrow", "ladies, but later", "this can harm you".

Problem: refusal of daytime sleep . The solution: observance of the "ritual" of packing. The crisis of 1 year of life is provoked by a large flow of information, which the baby receives and which is able to overload the baby's nervous system. Therefore, one hour before daytime sleep, it is necessary to transfer the baby to a quiet regime - to read books or have dinner.

Problem: has become the shadow of their parents . The solution is to convince you that you will always be with him. The crisis of 1 year is often accompanied by the fact that the baby is afraid of parents leaving. Therefore, do not forcibly separate it from yourself. It is worth constantly talking with him, even if the parent is in the next room, playing with the child in hide and seek, gradually accustoming to the fact that the mother does not, but she will definitely return.

Problem: I will not eat . The solution: do not force it to eat. The crisis of 1 year is closely connected with the formation of food predilections in the baby. And because if the child began to refuse the offered food, you can not force him to eat violence. Propose a variety of dishes, before meals take long walks, invite him to eat independently.

Problem: communication with peers . Solution: Submit your own example. To begin with, parents should show at home how to share with others, how to communicate with other people. At such times, you should connect the baby. Gradually certain patterns of behavior will become his habit and will be transferred from the family to communicate with peers.

The crisis of 1 year will be overcome, it is only necessary to make joint efforts to its quiet passage.