Pre-school children often encounter common pathological habits, such as sucking toys, fingers, nibbling, masturbation (masturbation). There may be a situation where the parent finds the child playing with his / her sexual organs. The first reaction is a shock, sometimes a desire to punish for unworthy behavior. But after the numbness has passed, do not scream and spank the child on your hands, you should calmly deal with this issue and understand how to behave and what to do when children are engaged in "this."
Masturbation in a small child. What to do?
You have a wonderful baby growing up, and one day there comes a time when you notice that the child is touching or playing with his / her sexual organs. The question arises: what is this? Childish curiosity, which is quite natural in the development of the baby, or a pathological habit - masturbation (masturbation)? And can children do this?
Formulation of the problem
Often during development, the baby has an interest in studying the male and female body. Children consider the naked bodies of peers and adults, while equally interesting for them is the study of the sensations of one's own body. Toddlers examine their sexual organs by playing, scratching, teasing or touching them. In this situation, there is nothing to worry about, there is a cognitive process. But if the child experiences positive emotions that become dominant for him, then the stimulation of the sexual organs becomes permanent.
Is it possible to deal with "these" children?
In 2-3 years it's still too early to talk with a baby about masturbation, since he does not understand what masturbation is, he does not know that touching himself and others in intimate places is considered indecent. Masturbation is a method of self-gratification, in which emotional discharge occurs. Often "this" occurs before going to sleep in a secluded place. If masturbation occurs regularly, then this becomes a pathological habit.
If the child openly asks questions about the structure of the body, the difference between a man and a woman or a girl and a woman, one should behave tactfully and answer children's questions, and not be ashamed of them. This is a natural interest and a new step in the development of the psyche and the knowledge of the surrounding world. Usually, interest occurs at the age of 3 to 6 years, then comes to naught, until adolescence.
Prerequisites of child masturbation
Physiological - due to an active temperament, a discharge from mental stress is necessary.
- Psychological - the child has a feeling of uselessness, he considers himself lonely, unloved, there is a lack of parental love and attention.
- Clinical - poor sleep and long sleep lead to the need for emotional relaxation.
Other causes may also be the causes of the appearance of masturbation:
- Isolation from the children's society;
- High excitability and emotionality in the child;
- Mother's coldness or father's impulsiveness;
- Physical punishment;
- If the sex of the child has not lived up to the expectations of parents.
What to do?
So, little children do this quite often. If you caught a child for masturbation, then, first of all, do not faint, abuse your child or engage in assault. You should show endurance and maximum tact.
If the child is small, then try to calmly switch his attention to another activity. If it is a child of school age, then calm behavior is also necessary. When he is able to listen to you, you should discuss the situation, but in no case should he be scolded and intimidated. This behavior on the part of parents can only exacerbate the situation. Just tell yourself that it's okay if the kids do this. At school, it is possible that they will be interviewed by a psychologist, but also communicate with your child at home, do not "throw" it.
What needs to be done to prevent onanism from becoming a pathological habit?
First of all, it is necessary to find out the cause of onanism. Do not give much importance to this and intimidate the baby with the terrible consequences of a bad habit. Most often, threats and intimidation mutilate the child's psyche and break the future.
You can not even discuss an unpleasant topic, just change the methods of education. Often children do this from lack of attention and when parents leave it to themselves. More often praise the baby, encourage the expression of feelings and emotions, provide him with enough physical activity. Give the child freedom of choice, as often as possible communicate with him on free topics, avoid notations and moralizing, teach correctly to respond to the emergence of negative emotions. In time, treat diseases associated with urology or gynecology.
It is also necessary to monitor the state of clothing that the child wears. Things should be clean, comfortable. Do not humiliate the child, discussing the topic of masturbation with outsiders, do not arrange interrogations and examinations. Help the child to find a hobby, new entertainment, to remain alone, he could take himself.
It should not be forgotten that masturbation is a way of getting rid of negative emotions. If you eliminate the source of tension, then the need for a splash of emotion will be lost. If the pathological habit does not last until the age of 10, it is necessary to turn to specialists, since the cause of masturbation at this age can be caused by the influence of people with mental disorders.
Increased hypersexuality of the child or early psychosexual development can cause masturbation. Many children are engaged in this, because they can not cope with such manifestations of early development on their own. Intimidation in this situation is useless. The child needs your help and understanding. You should know that early psychosexual development can and should be treated, otherwise masturbation will be fixed afterwards, which can cause serious mental deviations in the child.
The desire of parents to eliminate the external attributes of the problem will not solve the cause of the appearance of a pathological habit. For prevention, it is necessary to normalize intrafamily relations, interaction with the child, establish a soft trust relationship with it. Satisfy the emotional needs of the child in care and caress, regularly organize recreational physical activities, and also contribute to the development of the child's creativity. And then the problem is that the children are engaged in "this" will disappear by itself!