A real family is a kingdom ruled by Love!

So, in the world it is accepted that a normal family is necessarily married parents with children. Families in which one parent automatically fall into the category of "inferior", "incomplete" or even families of "disadvantaged". I immediately put forward the opposite opinion.

The number of family members does not always mean its quality. A strong, happy, prosperous family is a small collective where everyone is comfortable. And the presence of parents of both sexes is not at all an indicator of the quality of relations within it.

Of course, it is extremely difficult for one dad or mother, independently raising a child, to give children a versatile upbringing. But it's quite affordable! Many mothers who brought up wonderful, courageous, self-sacrificing sons. And the popes are those who helped their daughters grow up kind and gentle, beautiful housewives and caring mothers. Another question, what did it cost them ... But we are not talking about this now.

Many put forward such a thesis that a normal, "real" family is a family with children. Again a controversial proposition.

For many parents, the presence of children is really necessary in order to feel like a full-fledged family. But after all, there are people who do not need children at all, they feel a deep feeling for each other, their lives are filled with creativity, work, self-improvement. And even in deep old age these two continue to love each other, support, empathize.

Is someone right to condemn them for this? Moreover, not all families with children can boast of mutual understanding and calm friendliness in their small collective.

There is another "myth" about family happiness, which I would like to destroy. Most parents put forward such a postulate that a happy family is only one where the children are absolutely healthy.

Of course, looking at the suffering of a loved one is not a test for weak souls. However, to include such families in the category of "unhappy", "disadvantaged" is a huge error. I think it is more important not to have any physical defect in one of the family members, but the attitude of all the others to this person as to the person.

An example of my argument that there can be a happy family in which there are people with disabilities, and also that the so-called "incomplete" family has the right to be called happy and even ideal, will be the story of the mother and son.

The boy was only 8 years old when his mother paralyzed. She stopped walking, talking, eating and dressing herself. Dad by that time already safely somewhere was arranged, having forgotten at all both about the former wife, and about the son.

Can his departure from the family be called a misfortune? Rather, it was a misfortune that his departure took place too late ... Thus, from a "full" family with two parents, the mother and her son became "incomplete families", "disadvantaged". However, they interpreted this in a different way: only now they have settled happiness and joy, peace and love!

But the experience of the hardships of married life, such as: beatings, sleepless nights, hard work for pennies that went to a drunk alcoholic husband - reminded of themselves. Horror eclipsed the light. Mom got sick. They wanted to take the boy to the orphanage, having separated him from the only native person.

Intervened neighbor. She formalized the child custody. And the boy took care of Mom on his shoulders. At the age of 9, the young man himself washes and feeds his mother with a spoon, puts her out for a walk in her arms, sits in a wheelchair, does massage, talks and never ceases to admit to her in love and kiss her hands.

A family is a kingdom ruled by Love! Mom learned to stand, she said the first phrase after a terrible day, dividing life into "before" and "after". These were the words: "I ... love you ..."

One correspondent learned about them, prepared a report. Television contributed to the fact that the boy - a real hero, a man with a capital letter, courageous and unbending personality with a huge loving heart, with great strength of spirit - learned the whole country. Today influential people paid attention to them, my mother is preparing for an operation, which, according to the doctors, will definitely help her, because progress is evident.

This is the true family, the right family, the real family. And it does not matter how many children there are, whether all the parents are engaged in the upbringing of their offspring, whether there is prosperity, whether everyone is healthy - this is precisely the family, and not the notorious "cell" listed on paper.

And the last myth about which family should be considered young. Today, age criteria have been introduced for benefits in obtaining housing for "young families". Stand on the queue can only be until one of the spouses 36 years. I think this is wrong.

A young family is a family that was formed no earlier than 8 years ago, without taking into account the age of the spouses. Why exactly 8, not 5 or 6?

Psychologists and sociologists argue that couples at the turn of the 7 years most often fall apart. Therefore, during this period they need special support from the side, both material and psychological.

All expressed by me - IMHO. But has the right to exist, read and discuss.