Why donated do not give? What's bad about it?

"The gift horse does not look in the teeth" - everyone knows this expression, but many people categorically disagree with him, especially today, when gifts are given almost global significance. After all, it is believed that the more expensive present for value, the higher the gifter appreciates you. For many, it is absolutely normal to "order" a gift, that is, to tell the relatives in plain language what exactly they should give you. Well, maybe this is some sense. Let the gift in this Case and will not be a surprise, but in the house there will not be too much rubbish. You need a lot more than an unnecessary surprise, although "customized" things are happening. And a person, perhaps, put his whole soul into his present and, not knowing what to give, long chose it, sincerely believing that you will like it. Perhaps he would be happy to give something more expensive, but there is no financial opportunity. And this does not mean that he treats you worse than the one that showered you with gold, diamonds and iPhones. He showed attention to you, he did not forget about your holiday, and this in itself is very valuable.

However, you still do not like this "suspiciously cheap" figurine or a large plush pink behemoth, and you have already thought about where it is A disgrace to put. But did it ever occur to you why the gift is not given? No, of course, they give, but is it good from an ethical point of view? Suppose you presented the same unnecessary pink hippopotamus to another person. But it can happen that he will be familiar with the one who gave it to you. Or he will give the toy to someone else who can also know your donor. That is, imagine for a moment what a person who has made you a present will feel if he suddenly sees a gift from outsiders. You yourself would be pleased to see your gift not from the person to whom it was intended? And this is only one of the reasons why the gift is not given.

Another reason may be that initially the present was carrying some emotional or semantic load, that is, the giver wanted to tell you something in this way. Choosing a souvenir, he put into it a piece of his soul and positive energy. But you, not understanding the hint, gave you something unnecessary to another person, in whose hands the positive may turn out to be a negative: the gift was "tuned" to you, and you brushed it off. It is unlikely that this thing will bring happiness and Joy to the new owner. And there is an opinion that the clock is not given. It is believed that such a gift will necessarily lead to the severance of relations (especially if they are love). Someone agrees with this sign and already had a sad experience of parting after the given watch, and someone after the tenth "alarm clock" continues to live happily with his companion.

But all the same, why donate is not given? Most likely, because if the gifted person is really dear to you, then you just do not have to let the conscience get away with anything. You yourself / yourself will be ashamed later that you regretted the time to search and money to buy a good gift and presented the first thing that was unnecessary in the house. If you can not wait to get rid of the unwanted presentation and you do not believe in any prejudices at the expense of energy, then, of course, you can give the thing to someone who needs it, or sell, in the end. On the question of why the gift is not given, only your own "I" can answer.