The child does not want to learn: the advice of a psychologist. What to do if the child does not want to study

Sending their inquisitive kids to school, many parents do not even suspect what difficulties they will have to face in the near future. The pedagogical practice of recent years shows that the number of children who do not gravitate toward learning is growing rapidly from year to year.

What if the child does not want to study in primary school? Even experts are not always able to help solve this problem, but we will still try to understand the reasons for this situation.

Is there a problem?

It should be noted that in each child nature originally laid such qualities as curiosity and the desire for knowledge. However, the modern education system is far from perfect. Teachers and parents are interested in obedient children who do not express their own opinion and absorb new material in unimaginable quantities. And the students, in turn, protest against such a system. It is only natural that the child does not want to learn. The advice of a psychologist will make it possible to remove unnecessary tension and nervousness.

Remember yourself in childhood. Did you really like all subjects studied and the features of teaching individual disciplines? But in fact during this time the school program has changed for the better. Well think: maybe the problem is not so serious, and eventually it will be resolved by itself.

The question is: why do not children want to learn?

The advice of a psychologist will give a positive result only if the cause of the child's dislike for the learning process is identified in a timely and correct manner. There are several main factors that have a direct impact on the attitude of the baby to school activities. These include:

• Lack of any interest in a large part of school subjects;
• Complexities that arise when communicating with a child with peers (classmates);
• Negative emotions associated with the need to observe a strict regime - get up early in the morning, stand many hours sitting at a desk, do homework every day;
• Problems with the development of a particular school subject;
• Complex relations with one of the teachers;
• Loss of motivation.

Lack of incentives

A child who refuses to learn is easy to understand. Classes at school are not as interesting and enjoyable as their parents described them. The first enthusiastic impressions quickly pass. There remain routine activities, a fairly rigid regime and fear of getting bad marks. Parents are at a loss: their child does not want to learn.

The advice of a psychologist is primarily related to increasing motivation. This term is well known to adults, for whom the workplace is not only a source of income, but also an opportunity to increase self-esteem, achieve certain goals. In school, the incentives are weak. Good assessments in themselves, of course, can bring positive emotions. However, not all children are focused on long-term results, for example, at the end of a school with distinction or at least no triples. Thus, a large part of the students simply do not understand what daily activities are needed for.

At this stage, the importance of parents' influence is important, which should, in oral form and in a personal example, show their children how important school lessons are for their further development. Adults should try to convince small "rebels" in the need for successful schooling. As a comparison, you can cite any computer game in which the passage of the second, as well as all subsequent levels depends on the results of mastering the first stage.

So, parents are faced with an unpleasant fact: their child does not want to learn. The advice of a psychologist in this situation will be very helpful.

Negative attitudes toward learning: several secondary causes

In some cases, one can not immediately determine what is associated with the child's dislike for schooling. There may even be several reasons. To find out the whole truth, you should carefully look at your student. Sometimes dislike for studies can be caused by such factors as:

• Excessive emotional and physical stress (numerous extracurricular activities, tensions in the family);
• Hypervetstvennost kid, does not allow him to relax, which as a result leads to a decrease in interest;
• Changing the conditions of training (transition to another class, change of the mode of employment);
• Systematic substitution of lessons by "strangers" teachers.

Building relationships with the child: opinion of a specialist

First of all, try to determine on your own why your child does not want to study. The advice of an experienced psychologist at the same time boils down to the following:

1. Never put pressure on a baby. In families where children and their parents have a trusting relationship, such situations are resolved much faster and easier.
2. Try to build your relationship with the baby on a different principle - to become for him primarily a friend. And only then to play the role of a caring parent. For many representatives of the older generation, this seems unattainable. Some parents believe that children should never be treated as equals, since children should always remain children. If you do not mind such a style of communication, the results will be noticeable almost immediately. After all, a child will not hide anything from a best friend, and you will be aware of everything that worries him at any moment.
3. Be sure to show the child that you love him, even if not completely successful. He should not feel that your attitude towards him can change due to the fact that dislike of learning.

What to do if a teenager does not want to study: advice of a psychologist

Many schoolchildren, showing an interest in learning in the primary classes, entering the age of transition, become completely uncontrollable. Parents in such situations are powerless, because they find it difficult to establish contact with children who are significantly grown up. However, the problem is obvious: the child does not want to learn. What to do? Psychologist's advice will help to cope with this situation.

Candidate of Medical Sciences Lyubov Samsonova, dealing with the problems of endocrinology arising in childhood and adolescence, believes that one of the reasons leading to the unwillingness of schoolchildren to learn is the lack of iodine. Deficiency of this substance affects the synthesis of thyroid hormones. This leads to a deterioration of memory, absent-mindedness. He suffers from visual-figurative thinking. Especially difficult for those children who live far from the sea and consume the minimum amount of iodine-containing products.

Note to parents: it should be borne in mind that the daily norm of iodine for adolescents is 200 mcg. It is recommended to give the child potassium iodide, and also include iodized salt in his diet.

Adhere to the rule of confidential communication with a teenager and observe some general recommendations listed below.

General recommendations

Even if the child does not want to study, the advice of a psychologist will make it easier for all members of the family: relieve stress, stop disputes about the advisability of schooling. Below are some important points:

1. Try to avoid painful comparisons for the child, do not cite the successes of his classmates or neighbor's children.
2. Allow the son or daughter to decide for themselves in which order the lessons intended for homework should be done. At the same time, one should not hesitate to tell the baby that first of all it is necessary to start mastering the most difficult material.
3. Try to find compromises with the child: you can discuss in advance the optimal time for performing an extra-curricular task and set aside a certain period for rest and various pleasant activities. Psychologists recommend refraining from setting rigid time constraints.

The best reward is parental approval

Do not give up if the child does not want to learn. Psychologist's advice to parents, first of all, is aimed at changing the reaction of adults to everything that happens to their children.

From the point of view of the candidate of medical sciences Anatoly Severny, who is the president of the Association of Child Psychiatrists and Psychologists, it is very important for children to feel the support of their parents at the early school age, to know that the closest people are always on their side. In the teenage period, parental approval fades into the background, since at this stage a change in motivation occurs (the children seek to realize their own goals).

However, do not think that the support of parents for an adult child is an empty sound. Rather, on the contrary, parental understanding and approval can become decisive not only in solving school problems, but also in more complex life situations.

Summing up

Be sure to be interested in the life of your children, discuss the events of the day with them daily, do not hesitate to admit them to your mistakes and misconceptions. Training in a modern school is a rather complex but feasible process. Of course, parents should not carry out their homework for the child. But to understand the reasons for temporary difficulties and help to solve the problems that have arisen is really necessary.

If as a result of reflection you have not understood why the child does not want to learn, the psychologist's advice will help in clarifying the situation. And then your efforts will lead to the expected result. Love your children, no matter what, and trust them!