Sometimes we meet people who are like a tank on barricades. They are defending their position with foam at the mouth. Of course, plus someone who has a personal opinion: this indicates an intellectual development, education. But to listen to what others say is not superfluous. After all, truth is born in the discussion. And only by analyzing and comparing the facts can we come to the only correct decision.
Psychologists will make an unmistakable conclusion: in the above-described individuals, it is possible to diagnose a duck's syndrome. "What it is?" - you ask. Explain this feature of the human psyche can be an example of the usual life situation. People suffering from such a disorder in each sphere distinguish the leading, in their opinion, product, service, opinion, judgment, conclusion, and so on. Usually this is the object with which they first encountered in this area.
If to be extremely honest, then the syndrome should be called goose. In honor of ducklings it is called because of an error in the translation from German into English. By the way, it is not surprising that Germany became the birthplace of this disorder: only pure Aryans are so principled, accurate, unswerving, pedantic and conservative. And this common trait of character is traced in all members of this race.
The name of the disorder came from an interesting zoological phenomenon. Duck's syndrome in the natural environment was discovered by Australian scientist Konrad Lorenz, who wrote more than one book on ethology - a science that studies animal behavior. So, he discovered the amazing property of newborn goslings: they perceive for the mother of anyone who first caught their eye after birth. That is hatching from the egg and seeing a moving object, whether it be an ostrich, a cow or a clockwork toy, they unquestioningly begin to repeat his behavior and actions. For this reason, it is often the deep affection of geese to humans, dogs, cats or other pets.
Duck's syndrome ... What's this? Psychologists say that the disease can not be called the above-mentioned phenomenon. They tend to believe that, rather, this is one of the types of wrong thinking, when the subconscious mindset is confused and dictates to the individual a particular line of behavior. There can be several reasons for the occurrence. And the main thing is conservative upbringing. Often children who grew up in families with strict rules, try to rebel against established traditions. After leaving the parents' home, they radically change the hated life until now and try to at maximum taste all the joys of existence.
How to get rid?
If you carefully work on yourself, you can cope with the syndrome. The incentive may be the other half, loving you wholeheartedly, but not planning to live solely by your rules. Such a relationship smacks of tyranny. Yes, and surrounding friends may turn away if you constantly dictate your opinion, considering only its correct and appropriate. Therefore, in order not to waste old age alone, analyze: why do you think so, and not otherwise? Read the articles on this topic, find out the conclusions of professionals, ask what the close people think about this. Only by comparing the existing versions, you can choose for yourself the best option.
If the duckling is nasty
These two phenomena are often confused, although they are fundamentally different from each other. The nasty duck's syndrome is an alienation of the individual from society: families, friends, acquaintances. Developing usually in a deep childhood, he makes the kid a stranger, a white crow. The reasons can be very different: unusual appearance, extraordinary thinking, lack of material benefits. Often in nasty ducklings turn minors raised in dysfunctional families. In addition, the constant employment of parents or their indifference, the inability to find an approach to the heir, the reluctance to talk with him heart to heart and thereby rid himself of complexes, make the child a real outcast.
Tips for parents
One oriental sage said: "I was indignant that I do not have shoes until I met a man without legs." This phrase should become a postulate for each individual. Usually, children consider themselves not to be like everyone else because of their appearance. If this is not a serious flaw, amenable to adjustment, for example, excessive fullness, tell the baby that you will help him to correct the defect. Sit together on a diet and go in for sports: in any case, do not leave the child alone with the problem, do everything you can to solve it.
We all remember the tale of the great Andersen about the duckweed rejected by society. But we forget that it ended with a happy ending: a feathered, awkward creature turned into a beautiful swan. Focus on this episode of history. But remember: for such a transformation to take place with you, it is necessary to show at least minimal efforts.