If you can make someone happy - do it!

Sometimes it is suggested that a sense of personal happiness is selfish by nature. The person experiencing it is so immersed in its own positive emotions that it ceases to notice everything around, and especially the sorrows and misfortunes of others. Well, to some extent this is true. But, as in other cases, it is more important what kind of person it is than what it experiences.

Unselfish Happiness

Voltaire once remarked that he had never seen a more disgusting picture than a triumphant scoundrel. Conversely, people who are great in spirit, even in grief find strength to support others. What can be more joyful for a truly loving nature, than to make the neighbor happy? Is it necessary to do something grand for this? Any longest path starts with the first step, and it is not necessary that it be the widest.

The nature of this feeling is mysterious. A person can feel happy, having achieved great success or receiving a gift as a gift. A child's drawing can please more than a jewel. Of great importance is the personality of one who has shown generosity.

How to make parents happy?

No one in life is closer than their own father and mother. It is believed that the very fact of the well-being of children brings them indescribable joy, and, of course, to a large extent this statement is fair. However, unfortunately, it is not uncommon for those who achieved great success, sons and daughters are so busy that they do not even have time to call their relatives, not to visit them. They are too keen on their own affairs, and if they have free time, they prefer to spend it on fashionable parties, perhaps continuing to work on their own image and there by establishing the necessary acquaintances and supporting them. At best, "ancestors" are given money, and communication occurs only on major holidays, and even then not always. Of course, parents need to take care of their parents, and the material component is not superfluous, but the trouble is that "old people" in this respect often feel that they are a burden that requires spending, and in all other respects it is absolutely useless. They would feel their need, get the opportunity to give advice, suffered through a long life experience, and just talk heart to heart. And also to the father and mother it is always pleasant that the daughter or the son helps them in home troubles, although they usually insist that they will manage themselves.

We need to help our "ancestors" while they are alive, at least so that then the conscience does not torment. Calm sleep is a great happiness.

Brothers and sisters

The older children become, the less important is who is older and who is younger. They help each other, depending on who needs it, not on the basis of age. You can make a brother or sister as happy as any other dear person. What is needed for this? First, the attention shown. Secondly, respect. And thirdly (by number, but not in meaning), love. And do not need pathetic speeches, although from good sincere words, too, should not be abstained. We so often are afraid to say something sincerely and sincerely, for fear of appearing sentimental-stupid, that we sometimes become no less idiots, only silent.

And, of course, the help of the case and the feeling of a strong brotherly or sisterly shoulder beside inspire a certain life certainty, which is an integral part of true happiness.

Children

They really need very little. They are happy because they simply have parents. But this is also a lot, because the children need both the mother and the father completely, without a trace. They need attention, love, they need to talk about what interests them. And for this it is necessary for the parents themselves not to lose the sense of "childishness", never to forget about what they were like many years ago. In the end, children need for happiness for the same as for adults, that is, love, attention and a sense of self-worth. It's simple, and very difficult. This is not for all parents, only the best. But these efforts are usually appreciated, although, perhaps, not immediately.

Friends

A reliable friend is almost equal to a relative. Closeness of the spiritual is no less strong than the blood. However, for friendship, it is often customary to occasionally gather together with a company or a company, for a cup of coffee or a glass of something stronger to "wash the bones" of a common acquaintance. But the feeling is sacred. It should not be stained with gossip and gossip. One who discusses another with one person, under certain circumstances, can change the "object of research".

True friendship is another. This action, and this is work. But there are also the most ordinary joys in life. Make your friend happy simply if you know what he dreams about, and try to contribute to finding it. If it is a question of some material thing, but he himself pities money to acquire it (or they simply do not suffice), then the question is solved quite simply. It can be bought and given. If this thing is already with you, it is still easier, you can give it back and so, you do not need to regret, friendship is more expensive. It is not without reason that the expression "the last shirt from itself will take off," as an expression of selfless devotion.

Accidentally met people

True happiness is not transferred, as a bill, in payment for the effort spent. The principle "you - me, I - you" is very good at trading, but life is much more complicated than commodity-money relations. Most often, the good done to a stranger returns in the form of unexpected help from someone seemingly completely stranger, who, it would seem, can not even deal with your problems. If possible, happiness should be given to everyone who can. Do not be stingy on the emotional costs, this is a good "investment". After all, God is sometimes on the earth in a completely unexpected form.