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First love: a story of a lifetime

First love ... She sooner or later comes to everyone. And it does not matter whether this person wants it or not, it sweeps away the boundaries of reality, carries away into the world of dreams, experiences, sharpness of feelings, and sometimes, alas, great disappointments. The first love always appears at a time when you do not expect it at all. Most often this happens in school years. Of course, there are people who remember with a smile the feelings that have rushed in the younger group of the kindergarten, but they can hardly be called with real seriousness true love.

And indeed the first emotions that people experience in relation to the opposite sex often bring only pain and disappointment. Many are already subconsciously ready for this, having read books and listening to other people's stories. They believe that the first love will pass, and another will come after it. And the facts prove that this is so. Such feelings rarely arise the last time. And history, when a person connected his life with the object of first love, is generally a rarity. But this does not mean that new feelings that have arisen in adolescence can be considered something stupid, frivolous, childish.

According to psychologists, the first love is a serious test for a person's personality. On what it will be, the future depends, that is, how relations with representatives of the opposite sex will develop in the future. Experts argue that, ideally, youthful love should be fully completed. About this feeling, you should later simply remember with a light sadness, a smile or warmth. But, unfortunately, situations where the image of the first lover pursues a lifetime is by no means a rarity. Very often they are faced with women. Perhaps they are more vulnerable than men, they are more serious about everything and are prone to exaggeration. But, nevertheless, ladies often get stuck in their experiences about the first love, and feel a strong pain, can not build a normal relationship with those people who are close, with real men. It is impossible to remember all life the first kiss or sexual experience with a loved one, thinking that nothing more divine will be no more. Yes, the first love is not forgotten, and this is a fact. But remember it is only needed on the edge of consciousness.

Memories of the first love most often come to those young ladies who did not manage to find happiness in family life. That is, they can be married, give birth and bring up children, but spend all their lives thinking about Him. Although in fact He had long ago forgotten about their existence, and in general did not do anything good for them: neither in the past, nor even in the present. Women who like masochists, all the time remembering the old days, you need to stop harassing yourself and others. It is better to solve your problems in the real world.

It also happens that those who just love to suffer idealize their feelings of youth. Such women get pleasure from being unhappy. They come up with a continuation of the failed stories and live them in the head again and again. There are also such specimens that are prone to split feelings. They love the current spouse, but at the same time, they do not let go of their past feelings either.

What advice can be given to such martyrs? Live the present. And if the first love brought you the strongest emotions, and then caused incredible pain and disappointment, release it. Nobody can forget it, but life will not lead to anything good by memories alone. Everything that happens to people happens as it should be. Therefore, it is worth saying the fate of "thank you" for having once given such a strong feeling. And if they left a "scar" on their heart, they hurt, it's just a sign that you are living. A new feeling, if you really open your soul to him, can truly become a panacea for suffering.

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