The world is multidimensional. The human personality is also not one -sided and not one-sided. But the fact that we have different motives, thoughts, motives, desires - this is not the whole complexity. Often a person experiences simultaneously opposite feelings. Ambivalent - this word just means "dual," "bidirectional." How can this be understood and explained?
Ambivalent - this does not mean "bad" or "doubtful," this word only indicates the complexity and bi-directional experience. It is not so rare to hear or read stories in which this very moment puzzles a person. First of all, one who has such feelings. For example, if a seriously ill close person dies, for many it is due not only to the bitter loss and loneliness, but also to a kind of ... relief. And this is normal, for such experiences, in any case, do not blame yourself. After all, each of us has the instinct of self-preservation. If the grief had completely subordinated our life, we would not have the strength to sustain existence. High risk of severe mental illness would be high.
Ambivalent is something at once "with a plus" and "with a minus", attraction and repulsion. Such feelings and attitudes are often encountered in life. Real self-knowledge also consists in knowing how to recognize these two-way signals, motives, experiences. After all, being in a state of eternal hesitation is also impossible. Many vital steps require unambiguous decisions from us. And this means that one feeling or motive must obey another. For example, when marrying, girls often - even despite the mad love of a future life partner - experience mixed,
A certain duality is inherent in most people. The usual doubts that we are facing difficult and important steps are also a struggle of motives and opposing feelings. But sometimes throwing and difficulties with prioritization become too vivid and noticeable. About such a person they say that this is an "ambivalent person". Not always it is a question of mental deviations, perhaps, it is only the accentuation of character. That is, compared with the "average", such a person often experiences opposite feelings, enters intricate ties, can not decide on his position with respect to anyone or anything.