Dating with foreigners on international sites: for and against

In modern Russia, most girls prefer to "support a local producer" and, no matter how shy, marry Russians. However, many Russian women also look to the overseas countries and to the local cavaliers. Sometimes sidelong and with sincere disbelief, and sometimes - with an open mind and with genuine interest. This happens for various reasons, and not always in the first place are mercantile considerations. Let's plunge into this raging sea of human passions and learn what our romantic, matrimonial or even mercantile compatriots are looking for, seeking a better share on international dating sites with foreigners.

Irina V. from Cherepovets

"I got everything spontaneously enough, flew with my friends to rest in Spain, in Madrid I met Sanchez, my future husband, - before that I corresponded with him on one online resource. I did not even know Spanish then, talked more with gestures or in broken English. I just fell in love with this friendly hot country, in its hospitable people and, of course, in Sanchez, my future husband. And quite a secret: we in Cherepovets you will not find such tapas and such gazpacho in Andalusian. I'm just crazy about local cuisine! I'm learning to cook paella. "

Marina M. from Moscow

"In Moscow, I had my own small business - hairdresser. I did not think at all to get acquainted with foreigners for the purpose of serious relations, the profile on a dating site with foreigners used mainly for learning English - I talked to the media. In London I flew to visit my brother, who studies there as a designer. With Joseph, ironically, I also met in a hairdresser, but already in London. He was there waiting for his sister, who was doing the styling. We talked about that, he turned out to be a great lover of the Russian ballet. Between us as if a spark ran - love at first sight. It turned out that before that we had talked with him on a dating site with foreigners, when I was still living in Moscow. Well, we decided - everything, this is fate! Now we are thinking where to live - in London or in Moscow. "

Irina Sh. From Urengoy

"In Germany, I passed an internship from work, but it turned out that she stayed on permanent residence, did not plan anything in advance. Eric himself is from Canada, he works for an international corporation in Berlin, so we both ended up in the same boat - we learn an unfamiliar country and study German together. We met at one famous dating site. Fate, probably. "

Zhenya from Ufa

"I grew up in a very poor family, I was thrown by a drinking husband with a child in my arms - so I was left completely alone. Together with my friend we managed to come to work as nurse in Finland, here I found my husband. We found our new job on a dating site with foreigners - at first we went just to stay, and then everything turned out all right. I will not hide, there was no big love at first, there was basically only calculation - to provide for yourself and your child. But then I got used to my husband, to Raimo, so we live. I respect him very much and appreciate his tenderness and concern. He will be patient - he will fall in love. "

As we see, the motives for meeting foreigners and life stories can be very different. Someone is looking for a better life and pursues exclusively selfish interests, someone just falls in love at first sight - in a man, in a new country, in language, in culture or in local cuisine. Sometimes all of these factors can be present to some extent.

Among the advantages of this communication is an expansion of horizons. A person who travels to other countries, learns a lot of useful information and develops as a person. Mastering one of the foreign languages at a level sufficient for everyday communication is also a huge advantage. As one of the great ones said, "you will live as many lives as you will learn the languages". Having mastered one of the foreign languages, a person can not only communicate in everyday life, but also often claim a higher paid position.

Economic factors also play a huge role for acquaintance with foreigners. It's no secret that the average salary in Russia and, say, anywhere in Norway can differ at times. A higher standard of living helps to cope more easily with domestic turmoil and gives a person more opportunities for personal development. Pension provision in many Western countries is also much higher. Quality medical care in Russia is still possible only for very good money, in many Western countries, medical insurance allows you to qualify for a very high level of medical services. If a girl with her new foreign husband decides to take a mortgage, somewhere in Italy they will pay 2-3% per annum, and not 9-15%, as in the Russian Federation. Examples of economic benefits that can be learned from marriage abroad can be given quite a lot.

However, the decision to marry a foreigner is potentially connected with so many acute problems. First, the girl turns out to be in an unfamiliar social environment and is forced to assimilate. Not every person can easily learn a foreign language, even if he has a tendency to it. The social structure and traditions of the other country will also differ significantly from the usual ones. Even gestures can mean something different - for example, in Bulgaria, saying "yes", people shake their heads from side to side, which means "no." In the US, in many private homes, especially in such southern states as Alabama and Florida, it is not customary to take shoes off indoors, so there you will not find home slippers, but there will always be very powerful vacuum cleaners available.

Secondly, it is a matter of religion. If the foreign husband is a Muslim, it is better to discuss this issue in advance, so that family frictions and squabbling do not arise later. However, a compromise is always possible here, but for this, a man must initially feel the desire to find him. Difficulties can arise even with Christianity, because a particularly zealous Catholic or Protestant can hardly understand and accept his Orthodox bride. Moreover, not everything will be smooth if one of the partners turns out to be a believer and the other an atheist.

Climate and food is a separate story. If the girl has lived all her life, for example, in Murmansk, then it will be quite unusual for her all the time to roast in the sun somewhere in the suburbs of Madrid. Although the young organism tolerates such a change of climate is relatively easy, and in some cases it may even prove useful. As for food, in many foreign countries you simply will not find some traditional Russian products, such as buckwheat or even herring and black bread. In general, the more hot the climate in this or that country, the more vigorous and sharper the food that its inhabitants will use.

In conclusion, I want to note that each case is, of course, individual, and therefore the girl should take the decision on whether to marry or not to marry a foreigner. In some cases, the pluses may well exceed minuses, and a new, strong cell of society will be created. The main thing is to take this decision carefully and deliberately, and not hack it off the shoulder.