Tajik wedding - everyone walks

Tajik wedding is traditionally celebrated on such a scale that it became a real national problem. Even the president addressed his people with a speech, calling for reducing the cost of the celebration, not taking huge loans that are extinguished for decades. Will they listen to him? Time will tell.

And now let's talk, what traditions require such huge funds, and how to organize a wedding in Tajik.

If you observe all the traditions and rituals, then the celebration will take more than one day, and not even one week.

Matchmaking and engagement

As in most Islamic countries, Tajik parents themselves choose their children. They decide this among themselves, agree to arrange a wedding and send matchmakers. And the future bridegroom can learn about this only a month after the matchmaking, the day of the engagement.

His mother goes to the bride's house in the evening and carries a plov dish with a scone. A solemn dinner is arranged for her, in which the elders of the family and numerous guests are announced an engagement. This is accompanied by prayers and breaking of cakes. Now the young are considered the official bride and groom.

Takhta pass kunon - delivery of the kalym

Tajik wedding traditionally can not do without the delivery of kalym to the parents of the future wife. No matter how poor the groom, he must present precious gifts, and only after that the day of the future marriage is appointed, most often - in the autumn.

Before the Tajik bride is rarely a question, how to choose the right wedding dress, because the rituals suggest traditional clothes, albeit not very comfortable. Moreover, by tradition, this wedding dress should be worn by a young wife 40 days after the wedding.

Nikoh - wedding ceremony

State registration of marriage is not mandatory, but without a ritual "nikokh" a Tajik wedding can not do.

On this day, in the families of the young, all the villages are treated with pilaf. The festive feast lasts until the evening, and at this time the groom and the bride are preparing for the wedding - each in his own house. The bride is dressed in traditional wedding clothes, and she awaits the arrival of the groom. In a conspicuous place all her outfits and special amulets are hanging out: red pepper for protection from evil spirits, a spoon for the birth of the daughter-mistress and a knife for the birth of a brave son-warrior.

When the groom arrives, a bride comes to him, surrounded by girlfriends, the mullah is called to perform the marriage ritual. He reads to the young special lines from the Koran, prays, takes seven shawls from the bride in turn, and the groom confirms his consent to the marriage each time. After this newlyweds drink water from one cup, and now they are officially considered husband and wife. The husband is obliged to protect his family and provide it, and the wife must obey the husband in everything.

Wedding feast

The Tajik wedding continues with a feast that lasts three days in the bride's house, and another three days in the groom's house. A thousand guests - this is the usual scope for such a holiday. If 200-300 people are invited, then the Tajik wedding is considered very modest.

Tables must be set with food so that there is no empty space left. Even if the guests can not eat everything and the food spoils - it does not matter. Tajiks are very afraid of condemnation from neighbors and acquaintances, therefore they try to show guests the maximum generosity and luxury.

The most traditional dish, without which no holiday passes - it's pilaf. But they serve it only at the end of the feast, when the guests are going to go home.

In the role of the toastmaster is a byderhane - an elderly respected person. He should be able to beautifully and figuratively pronounce toasts, give the floor to all guests, give signals for the conduct of folk games and dances.

On the third day of the wedding, the kayderhan takes off the veil from the bride - this means the beginning of a new life for her. After that, the holiday moves to the house of the young husband. On the sixth day of the wedding, the bride's relatives come to the groom's house and spend the night there - thus ending a long rite.

Honeymoon

Tajik wedding, like any other, ends with a honeymoon. It lasts too very long - forty days. But the young do not go to exotic countries, but spend this time in the house of a young husband, under one roof with his parents. It is believed that this helps to save the family from the first quarrels and problems.

If we calculate the total time of all the wedding rituals, then they take almost two months. And the list of financial costs includes not only the generous treats of numerous guests, but also the transfer of kalym, gifts to the bride, expensive wedding dresses, decorating the house. Therefore, the Tajik wedding is more than a serious event, the divorce after which occurs only in isolated cases.