How to Find a Friend That You Can Trust

Loneliness is not the best companion in life. Even the most beautiful parents can not replace a friend or girlfriend. How often can you hear the cry of the soul from young people: "I want to find a friend who can be trusted!" Well, let's think about how to find a way out of this difficult situation.

First, let's look at some of the myths about friendship.

Myth first. The ideal friend must be completely attached to me.

To find a friend, you need to clearly realize that he will not live your life and only for you. On the first call to rush to help you, to help you in everything that you want. A friend is a person who understands and accepts you as you are, but he lives his own unique life. He can get sick, he can forget about the meeting, he may have a different opinion, he can be friends with someone else - that's normal. By giving a friend freedom, you respect his personality. It is unlikely that another person will want to be friends if you are jealous all the time.

Myth of the second. A true friend must be only one.

It all depends on the person. Someone is enough to find a friend once and for life, he grabs one waistcoat to listen, understand, give good advice. And another, like air, needs a good company of friends. Temperament and personal characteristics dictate certain needs for friendship.

Myth three. You have to be like everyone else to find a friend.

This is outright nonsense. Keep your values, uniqueness, dignity. Why do many of your peers follow the crowd? They are not sure of themselves. It often happens that young people do not like mass habits and way of life. But they can not say and do anything. Self-confidence comes from the realization of one's unique destiny. Keep what you have.

So, how to find a friend you can trust.

Friendship connects people with common interests. Where to find friends? Where everyone is passionate about one thing.

However, it is unlikely that a good friend will meet you in a company that is not friendly with the law, or in structured groupings. In such communities, at first glance very friendly, the guys are united not by passions, but by fear, passion, harsh rules, hierarchy. A person who is bound "by the hands and feet" by the laws of a particular subculture will be her slave. One day he will face a choice - either you, or group rules. Think, whether he will become a true friend?

Friendship is tested in difficulties. How much are you ready to help another person? There is such biblical wisdom: "If you want to have friends, be yourself friendly". Many times I heard complaints of loneliness, of misunderstanding, of the fact that friends only use, and at a difficult moment turn away. I always wanted to ask: "What do you do?"

Pay attention to one more thing. Each of us has referential people - those whose opinion we value, on whose way of life we are guided. Sometimes you really want this person to be a friend. But ... look around. Maybe you just do not notice that your friend lives nearby or studies in the same class. It's just that you're looking in the wrong direction.

What to do if it seems that no one takes you? Watch closely the peers who have many friends. Most likely, these are very interesting people. The surrounding people usually reach out to those with whom it is not boring. Again we return to hobbies. If you are busy only with computer virtual games, then what can you offer a friend? Return to the real world of communication. When a person has some achievements in a certain area, strives for something, then he has something to tell about.

In conclusion, I'll tell you about one good lesson that my beloved gave me. Once he asked: "Why do you think that people owe you something? No one owes nothing to nobody. It's easier to look at the relationship between people. And when they are kind to you - take this attitude as a gift. " Frankly, this advice helped to get rid of many experiences about the behavior of my friends.