Nonverbal signals: types and meaning

People communicate not only through voice (verbal communication). There is also a nonverbal form of communication - the body language. Sometimes he is much more eloquent than words. After studying non-verbal cues, you can better understand others.

Language of the body

Non-verbal signals include:

• Facial expressions,
• Gestures,
• Body movements;
• pose;
• eye contact;
• Change of intonations in the voice;
• Distancing.

Let us analyze their types in more detail.

Gesturing . It includes any movement of hands and hands. Here you can add manipulations with small items.

Mimicry. These are non-verbal cues that can be read on the person's face: blinking, smiling, frowning, grinning. And also any psychosomatic processes associated with the face: suddenly flushed red, redness, pale appearance.

Movement of the body. Any body movements (this does not include those for which you need to use your hands and head). For example, drawing a foot on the sand, bulging breasts, sipping, gesture "foot on foot." This refers to the general position of the body and its change. For example, a person can stand, pushing the body into the wall, crossing his arms and legs. This will signal a certain psychological state.

Intonation. This includes:

• Tone of speech;
• Smacks of smacking;
• Sighs;
• Holding your breath;
• Pause.

We listed the main types of nonverbal body signals. To study them will be useful for those who constantly works with people or speaks in public. Such signs act on the subconscious of people much more than verbal.

Counterfeit signals

Nonverbal signals can not be completely taken under control, which means that it is very difficult to forge them. They come from the area of the unconscious, and if a person plays, then there will be inconsistencies in words and facial expressions. He will not be able to completely relax, which is also easy to notice.

It happens that the interlocutor answers in the affirmative, but in fact does not think so. Note: his head will unconsciously sway, as if to say the opposite. Your intuition is an excellent assistant in the difficult matter of recognizing the correspondence between verbal and non-verbal signals. Do not dismiss it, but on the contrary - listen.

Errors during decryption

Nonverbal body signals are not always interpreted correctly, and for that there are reasons. Let's look at the main mistakes:

• The context is ignored. Pay attention to the circumstances surrounding the situation. For example, you see a girl who lowered her sad look and hugged herself with her hands. At the same time, she trembles. If this lady is your employee and sits in the office, you might think that she is upset and desperate. The same non-verbal signals can be sent by the woman at the stop in the winter, but at the same time she is just very cold.
• Focus only on one gesture. For example, it can be a notorious gesture when the arms are crossed on the chest. Everyone knows that it means non-acceptance, closedness of the interlocutor, rejection of your ideas. It is not always so. The interlocutor can be just so comfortable to stand, he is tired, leaned against the wall and conveniently folded his arms. In addition, one must pay attention to a set of non-verbal gestures. If the arms are crossed on the chest, and while the person has a frown, an elevated eyebrow and legs turned away from you, then you can talk about rejection.

Ability to recognize non-verbal signals of love Is inherent in women by nature itself. This is the woman's intuition. It is given to the weaker sex in order to understand what the child needs at a time when he can not say about it yet. But her ladies are using it not only for their "direct" purpose. However, they are endowed with the sixth sense and men ...

Non-verbal signals of a man

Strong sex is perfectly in control of its emotions, at least better than women, but it is almost impossible to completely disguise them:

• Dilation of pupils. It's not always possible to look the guy straight in the eyes, but if you see that when you look at you, his pupils widen, then you can rest assured that he likes you.
• Twitching of the eyebrow. If you notice such a non-verbal signal when looking at you, then it too can be interpreted as a sign of sympathy.
• Estimating view from top to bottom. The guy looked into your eyes, and then his gaze went down? You can rest assured that he likes you. Women well know this male look. The paradox is that when a girl does this, the guy does not understand this sign.
• Pose of a man who feels sympathy. When you meet a pretty girl, the man starts to smarten up involuntarily: something to correct, wipe the shoes, smooth the jacket. A guy who wants to please draws in the belly, tries to take the most advantageous pose to show the muscles. Do not miss the opportunity to bring something or move to show your strength - "to play with muscles."

Female nonverbal sympathy signals

Girls are emotional creatures. It is a fact! The number and quality of non-verbal signals depends on how much the charmer wants to attract the attention of a man. Let's figure out the tricks and tricks that ladies most often use unconsciously:

• Vote. Virtually all ladies change their voices involuntarily when communicating with the object of sympathy. The usual rate of speech slows down. The voice becomes lower, may even appear a slight hoarse. This indicates that a woman has sexual desire for a man.
• Stamina. When a girl likes a guy, but she is afraid to be rejected, then the pace of her speech, on the contrary, is accelerating. The voice breaks, trembles, there are shrill notes. In the throat, a spasm can occur, a cough is possible.
• Giggles. The laughter of the girl also changes. Even a well-mannered lady can suddenly begin to hysterically giggle, laugh out loudly. The picture looks very stupid.

Female magic

Non-verbal signals girls use to attract stronger sex. The gestures that ladies most often use are:

• Touching the earlobe, correcting the earrings;
• Winding a strand of hair on the finger;
• Demonstration of the wrist;
• Sipping, which shows a thin waist, baring a belly or a lush bust;
• Demonstrative tossing feet on the leg.

More explicit sexual appeals:

• Playing with a shoe, it's better to have a boat. The girl takes it off and shakes it on the toe, then puts it back on.
• Manipulation with objects of cylindrical shape. Scrolling between the fingers of cigarettes, stroking the misted glass with champagne. These non-verbal signals indicate that the hands are ready for caresses. In a man, such gestures arouse sexual fantasies in addition to the will.

To make your gestures enjoyable, and not aggressively sexy, remember why a woman needs her hands. They pump the baby, stroke and soothe the beloved man, make him a massage, relieving fatigue. If you keep it in your head, the gestures and movements will become smooth, elegant and soft. You will look natural and open.

Unattractive manipulations

If a girl came to a party with a specific purpose to get acquainted with a guy, then you need to closely monitor your gestures. Some can push a strong gender, no matter how beautiful the lady looks:

• You can not stand cross-legged and arms. This reduces the chance to make a nice acquaintance to zero. This behavior indicates that you are closed to contacts with people.
• Touch your face less with your hands. The support of the cheek, the rubbing of the nose and the finger at the mouth are gestures of "blue stockings". It also speaks of strong doubts in oneself.

Flying gait

A beautiful gait is another non-verbal signal for men. Strong floor attracts a flat back, backed shoulders, cat's grace. Do not swing your arms much - it looks awkward.

By walking you can read the character of a person. This applies not only to women, but also to men. A timid man makes small steps. A soldier's march means a tendency to manipulation and command. On the duality in character will tell angular movements. Such a person tries to defend himself, but can suddenly show aggression.

It's bad when the legs move, and the arms hang limp along the body. This gives helplessness, unwillingness to take the initiative. In non-verbal language it says: "I'm weak, do everything for me." Men do not like such women.

In the movie "Italian Marriage" Sophie demonstrated a stunning gait, which became a textbook. Beautifully go to her taught husband director. He came up with a very funny way of training. The actress had to walk between two rows of nightstands and close their doors with hips. Sophie trained until the flapping of the doors became barely audible.

How to understand that a person is lying

Nonverbal signals of lies are not so difficult to recognize if you know some secrets. Our subconscious does not lie and will easily give out a liar. Be attentive to signals, they can give out the true thoughts of a person:

• Gestures:
• sight;
• pose;
• Intonation, timbre of voice.

Do you want to know what the son or daughter-teenager hides? Or maybe you want to understand how the boss really treats you? Have thought, whether the husband does not change you? These questions can be answered by studying the psychology of lies.

• Take a closer look at the left side. This part of the face can easily give a liar. Look closely at the person whose sincerity you doubt. If during the story his left hand hangs, describes vague circles, or he breaks his fingers on it - this is a sign of what the other person is grafting. The same can give out the left leg. The thing is that the left and right hemispheres of the brain control both the left and right sides of the body, only it works crosswise. Hence, the right hemisphere, which is responsible for emotions and is difficult to control, is likely to give out untruth, even pre-rehearsed.
• Mouth covered with hand. If your counterpart wants to lie, then he can cover his mouth with his hand. The thumb, as a rule, is pressed against the cheek. In addition, the interlocutor can cough. The main thing - do not confuse this non-verbal sign with a real cold. If such a signal is given by a person who listens, it means distrust to the interlocutor.

• "Noodles on the ears." A person who is tired of his own lies will cover his ears with his hands or keep them near this part of his body. This gesture is an attempt to fence off an untruthful story. The same will be done by a person who does not believe the words of his interlocutor.
• To fuse through teeth. There is a proverb: "The word is not a sparrow, it will fly out - you will not catch it." The person who deceives, will try not to open the "birdhouse" much, that is, to speak not very loudly and as though through teeth. This behavior can also mean discontent, irritation, fatigue or grief of the one who narrates. It all depends on the context and the situation.
• Eyes - a reflection of the veracity of words. The strong sex does not like to look into the eyes if it deceives. A man is scratching his eyelid. The lady can start to correct the make-up or pretend that something has got into the eye. This non-verbal signal also indicates that you are sick of your counterpart.
• Take your eyes off. Representatives of the stronger sex control their emotions well, but if the deception is serious, then they look at the floor. Girls, as a rule, if they lie, look at the ceiling.
• The neck is scratched. This is one of the most interesting gestures noticed by psychologists. The person who lies, begins to scratch his neck with the index finger of the right hand. In this case, he usually makes five movements. If the interlocutor does this, he listens, then it means that he does not believe his opponent.
• To speak briefly. Even if a person has been preparing for a long time and thinking through a lie, he will try to give it out as quickly and without unnecessary details. The liar himself is uncomfortable with the story he tells, so he will try to get it over with as soon as possible.
• Inquisitive look. If in a normal conversation people do not have the habit of catching a reaction to their words, the liar will look inquiringly into the eyes, checking whether they believe him or not.

How to accurately identify a lie?

There are situations when you need to know for sure, tell the truth, vis-a-vis or lie. Try using the tips below:

• Say that not everyone understood. Ask the person you suspect of cheating to repeat everything in detail. This is a serious psychological attack. Vrunishka begins to stray and leave the details. Observe what nonverbal signals your body sends.
• Listen carefully to the interlocutor. Lose on your face different expressions: benevolent change sharply to a sign of mistrust. The interlocutor who lies, watch closely your expression. If he knows the meaning of non-verbal signals or he intuitively feels something, he will immediately start to panic and lose his way.

How to recognize the sincerity of a smile

Any person considers a smile a sign of sympathy and a good attitude. It affects the subconscious mind in any case, whether you like it or not. Therefore, it is so important to distinguish between a genuine manifestation of sympathy or a forged taut smile, with which you want to achieve something from you.

A bad sign is asymmetry. A real smile is even, when a person "pulls" it, one corner of the mouth can be higher than the other. Demonstration of teeth is also considered a sign of trust and sympathy. A sign of goodwill is that the interlocutor does not hesitate to laugh at you.

Irony. The ironic laughter is inherent in people who treat you, in general, well, but it means that at the moment you look comical. The smile is slightly curved, and one eye can be screwed.

Sarcasm is a frank display of disrespect and arrogance. A person thinks you are lower than yourself and laughs frankly at you. Signs of sarcasm:

• Curvature of a smile;
• Haughty eyesight;
• Ill will in his voice.

How to understand non-verbal signals of boredom? This is especially necessary if the profession of a person is connected with constant performances in public. It is also important for the trading agents to understand whether the potential buyer is listening to his speech or simply pretending. If an opponent is bored, he can hardly hide it: the body language does not deceive.

Signals of boredom

By such signs you can recognize that your conversation is not interesting to your story or your company is bored:

• If a person is in a sitting position, especially at a table, he will prop his head with his hand. And if it is not particularly visible (for example, a student at the back of the desk during lectures), then he can generally fall asleep.
• A person who is not interested will look at the clock, as if hurrying somewhere. He does not look at the interlocutor, but through him or in the other direction, trying to somehow occupy his brain.
• The sign of fatigue is usually yawning. If a person already wants to end the communication and go home, then he begins to stoop, pile on the wall, lean back on the chair.

Distance in sign language

Do you want to understand how your interlocutor treats you? Move closer to him. If you are pleasant to your counterpart, then he will remain in place and smile. If you do not accept, the person will automatically move away. He does not trust you, and it will be difficult to move to a closer phase of communication.

Non-verbal signals in communication are very important. If they coincide with your words, then a person will trust you on an intuitive level. Finding out other people's non-verbal signs, you can "read" the interlocutor like a book.

Nonverbal signals in communication will help attract the attention of the opposite sex. A girl who owns "body language" has a better chance of attracting a guy he likes. In addition, if a lady is familiar with such a concept as non-verbal signals of sympathy, and knows how to distinguish between them, she will be able to protect herself from gigolos, swindlers and pick-up workers. By reading the signals that the body gives us, you can find out what the young man is up to, and make sure that he is really sympathetic.

However, sign language is useful not only in the affairs of the amorous. A person who makes a career, gets a chance to interact better with his superiors or bypass his colleagues if he has this knowledge.