Never do this on a first date!

It's unlikely that you will get a second chance to impress the man first. The moment of a meeting with you will remain in his memory forever. You dream of everything going without a hitch, but the circumstances are constantly intervening, half of which does not depend on you. No matter how you try to calm down, emotions cover you with your head. Fortunately, scientists have long figured out the whole inside out good date. According to various estimates, you have about 12 minutes to make a good impression. To help you will come the right strategy. There are things that men do not like or do not welcome. Try not to do this, and your meeting will be held "with a bang, despite the intense excitement."

Do not be late.

It seems that we have found the gravest sin that will hopelessly spoil your impression. Of course, you can be late for a date, for reasons beyond your control. But can not you foresee a little more time for the fees or make an amendment to the traffic jams? If you are traveling to an unfamiliar place, try not to look like a blind kitten and check in advance the route. So you will save a few minutes. Do not think to be late intentionally to show your inaccessibility. In the depths of the soul, men are very vulnerable and subtly feel disdain. In any case, your chosen one may think that you do not cherish the time of others and you can not be relied on. If you expect to continue dating, your best choice will be punctuality. In addition, having arrived at a meeting on time, you will save the man from unnecessary excitement.

Do not lie.

This happens very often. On the first date, people want to seem better than they really are. One of the sociological surveys, involving about eight thousand men and women, showed that 60 percent of respondents consider the lie on the first date to be quite acceptable. We are talking about hiding some of the circumstances, embellishing our own achievements, concealing the true age or marital status. Curiously, 15 percent of women surveyed appear to be a different name. Men often embellish the level of income and "improve" themselves in the office (this is typical for the fair sex).

From the point of view of psychology, this phenomenon is quite understandable. According to experts, people lie more often to each other, if they do not feel a deep connection between themselves. As you understand, trust can not be felt at first sight. On the other hand, if you begin to communicate with lies, it is foolish to expect that from now on you will be honest with your partner. Therefore, if you want to build a trusting relationship, do not begin to get acquainted with the "little" deception. When a partner learns about the falsification of facts, he will catch you in the desire to manipulate people. Sometimes a lie is associated with people with low self-esteem of the individual.

Do not be distructed

Your first date risks becoming the last if you do not let go of the phone or look at the cafe walls with a dull look. You may not know about this, but this behavior gives you a lack of interest in a man. From the outside it is noticeable to the naked eye. In the event that you can not take your eyes off the screen of your mobile phone, you show that somewhere in another place for you there is a higher priority communication. Give up the tempting prospect of checking e-mail and stop looking at your pages on social networks. You will spend only a few hours with this man. So make yourself temporarily inaccessible to all other people. Advice: to increase the concentration of attention will help yoga and meditation practice.

You do not listen to the interlocutor

We have one more factor related to the unwanted dating strategy. In your hands there is no mobile phone, and the view does not wander around, but you are looking at a man with an absent appearance. Another common mistake: you prefer to talk yourself and constantly interrupt the interlocutor. Thus, you unconsciously want to show your potential partner that this world revolves around you. Why not play fair and do not give the interlocutor 50 percent of "air time"? In order for him to be with you easily, arm yourself with the practice of active listening. Focus on verbal and nonverbal signals, apply the principle of reflection (duplication of partner gestures and some words). In other words, try to interact with the person meaningfully. Otherwise, why would you agree to a date?

You remember the ex-boyfriend

A huge mistake on your part will be the mention on the first date of the facts about your ex-boyfriend. If you want to make the right first impression, erase the past from memory. Even if your former partner was so bad that you broke your heart, the current elected one does not need to know about this. This is a huge minus, which screams to the whole world that the former feelings have not faded away. A man who has heard any mention of a former guy, will think that you regard him as a reserve option that will help brighten up your forced loneliness. Well, if you think that comparing with another person will help your new self to increase self-esteem, you are deeply mistaken. In fact, this will produce the effect of a bomb that explodes when a man puts another brand on the front of your name "she says stuffy things about her ex-boyfriends." He is not attracted to the prospect of being on this list.

You are negative

To make your first date unforgettable, surround him with a positive aura. Be optimistic and smile more often. But leave complaints and unflattering remarks in someone's address. Any manifestations of negativity cast a shadow on you. Even if you did not like the service in the restaurant, step over your selfishness and keep silent. Even if you expected more from the meeting, do not show your disdain immediately. If you often catch yourself thinking that you tend to notice shortcomings, and not the dignity of people, we dare to assure you that optimism can be exercised. Every day you can record the joyful things that happened to you. Do not forget to thank fate for all these little joys.

Bad manners

The correct first impression is impossible without good manners. Act as etiquette requires it, do not forget about polite words and kind treatment of service personnel.

Passion for alcohol

If you are too excited, do not look for comfort in a glass of wine. Excessive consumption of alcohol does not color anyone. Instead of emancipation, you will ensure a loss of control over your own words and actions. This will also reduce the concentration of attention and temporarily turn off the memory functions. Therefore, try to comply with the prescribed health standards, otherwise you will bitterly regret your behavior.

You are complaining

Each of us in life has unpleasant moments, which I want to accent people around. Your boss is too demanding, colleagues are not executive, and the neighbor is slovenly? Why do you tell a man about the hardships of his life? Is he able to solve all these problems? You can not know what is going on in his soul, but he has no habit of seeking sympathy and understanding from others. Even if permanent complaints have become a way of life for you, try to save your chosen one from unwanted information. This meeting can be a starting point in the development of your new life principle. Learn to let go of annoyance and do not let the negative become part of your existence.

You brag about

Self-confidence is a very attractive feminine quality, but do not confuse it with bragging. Nobody forbids you to be proud of your achievements and current successes, but do not make a first impression of self-presentation.

People who are in the habit of showing off, involuntarily diminish the interlocutor's merits. So if you want to hit a man, modesty will be your best strategy.